how to talk to the girl i like?

[єχσтιc]

hey guys so i've kinda fallen head over heels for this one girl, and i know it's stupid but i basically only know her name. I've never talked to her before because it's hard - i have no classes with her so it's not like theres any common intrest to talk about. She's absolutely stunning and i do have some mutual friends with her (on facebook) but not mutual enough to have an excus to talk/hang out. How should i go about introducing myself and starting conversation? i'm only a freshman and she's like a sophmore or junior i dont even know lol but she always checks me out apparently and we make this intense eye contact and both of us blush and look away so idk... what should i say? i'm so stuck!!!

im not 100% positive about her sexuality, however i know what kind of music she's into - the way she dresses - and just sense a bi vibe from her. plus she likes a bisexual page on facebook if that helps at all...

THANKS!

[Tom Chase]

Approach her the next time that you see her

Time it right. When you do talk to her, pick a time that's convenient. Don't try to get her attention when she's obviously involved in something else, and try to have a bit of privacy - you don't have to be completely alone, but her attention shouldn't be too distracted.

Make the interaction extra casual (and put a time limit on it) by talking to her while you're both walking somewhere else. If you walk to a class at the same time as her, or you start walking the same way home, this is a great opening.

Start with a compliment. Paying the right compliment makes your intentions clear right away - she'll know instantly that you're interested in being more than her friend. Here are some things to consider:

Know how to deliver a compliment. Even the best compliment in the world will fall flat if your delivery is off. Keep a half smile as you talk - it will make you naturally add appealing inflection to your voice. (Use this trick out when you answer the phone sometime and see if you notice a difference.) Maintain eye contact with her, and keep the tones of your voice up, but lower the actual volume - speaking softly immediately communicates intimacy, and it can make her instinctively lean in closer to hear you. If this all sounds a bit difficult, practice it in front of a mirror first.

As anyone who's ever had a stalker can tell you, there's a fine but definite line between flattering and creepy. With this in mind, choose your compliment wisely. Saying something like "You always look amazing in that shirt" can come off as weird if you don't know her well, and implies that you watch her. (Even if you do, it's best not to spill that information immediately.) Instead, opt for something general but cute, such as "Your smile is glowing today. What's making you so happy?" or "I thought what you said in class earlier was really interesting." A good compliment should naturally lead to more conversation, instead of just hanging awkwardly in the air after you say it.

Know what to avoid. If you're going to pay her a compliment about her physical looks, stick to her eyes, smile or hair. Do not comment on her body otherwise, especially on the first interaction.

If you want to play it extra safe, pick something you already know she's proud of. For instance, if you know she's a dedicated violinist, say something like, "I've heard you're an amazing musician," and use it as a way to ask her some questions about it.

Keep the conversation moving. You might be tempted to stop talking and just stare at her, but don't let your nerves get the best of you. Allowing a long lull in the conversation will make things feel awkward.

Instead, have a mental list of backup questions you can use if you stumble on an uncomfortable pause.

Ask about what she thinks of an upcoming event. Asking for her opinion communicates that you care about what she thinks, and see her as more than just an object.

Ask open-ended questions. For instance, instead of saying "So, have anything fun planned for the break?" (which can be answered with a short "yes" or "no"), say "What are you going to do to keep busy while school is out?" A question that requires a detailed response is always better to keep a conversation flowing.

Close the conversation early. Follow that old saying - "Always leave them wanting more." Find a way to gracefully duck out of the conversation before it goes stale.Good luck!