Does he want a relationship or just sex?

[BomBomBom]

So I've been seeing this guy for like 3 weeks now. We've been on 2 dates already and we're going to meet on saturday again. I've known him since August and he was really shy at the beginning and stuff. When we met in september at my best friend's birthday party he seemed really shy and he admitted to me later that he was afraid of me. So on this party 4 weeks ago. We danced and he tried to kiss me but I didn't want to kiss him but he'd still continue talking to me via facebook and stuff. Then we decided to meet up ( our first date) and he was really polite and stuff, paid for everything. So I kissed him and we made out. But I stopped making out after a while because I didn't want to take thing too far and he agreed. So, we met at his place on friday and he was really sweet. Yes, he made some sexual jokes but he is a guy and stuff. One thing led to another and he ended up fingering me and I gave him a bj ( Yes, I'm going to hell). When he dropped me home, he said that he hopes that I will get in touch with him again. So I did until sunday and then I didn't reply anymore and he texted me on tuesdays. Saying I knew you were going to stop replying to me. So we started to talk again and he said something like ' I really like you and I cannot stop thinking of your butt!' and I was like ' I knew that I just used me!' and he was like ' No, I didn't use you and I'm not that type of guy! But I really like you and I can't help it that I feel attracted to you!' and When I was at his place he said something like ' It's hard for me to resist you but I like you!' So he asked me if I wanted to hang out with him again on Saturday. I've talked to my friends about it and they say that they don't think he's using me because he's a shy guy and he has no history of being a player. Maybe he just really likes me or feels really attracted to me? What do you think? Btw I'm 17 and he's 18


PS: When I told him that I need to get birth control, he was like ' hold on, this is just the second date!' and he even said to me that he think it's great that I'm a virgin and that I should only lose my virginity to someone I love...
he even said to me that he's only had sex with one girl and he dated her for 6 months...

[Guardian]

Yes he seems to want sexual favours from you. if your dating a girl for the first time you dont try to feel them up or bring them home...that a give away

you try to spend time out and in various places doing different things exploring if there is a connection and not getting sexual.. too many people act on their hormones get their sexual fulfillment before theyve even known if they are compatible?

its pathetic really, its like putting two canaries in a bird cage and expecting them to breed and your not a bird are you?

[Mystery]

Just make a plan statement that your not gonna have sex till marriage and if he doesn't respect that then just tell him to fuck off and find someone else. I mean if he really cares about you he would be rushing all this stuff

[toby]

He's just a normal guy, who's turned on by you. If you don't want to have sex do more of the other things (such as finger/head) as this will keep him satisfied and your not having sex! honestly I don't know a guy who doesn't want sex, most rush it, agreed, but you should give him a chance- if you like him.

[bossy ♥]

Same problem here, girly.
Just last week the same kind of thing happened to me, and the guy seemed to actually "like me" but yet he wanted to jump into sexual things too quickly (not sex though). He use to text me all the time, but I haven't talked to him in 3 days now. So it just comes to show he wasn't really interested in me. Guys will sometimes say anything to get what they want.

Anyways..... One thing I noticed, you're obviously on his mind if he says "I knew you were going to stop replying to me", he seems like he doesn't want you to stop talking to him. And if he thinks birth control (which obviously means "sex") is too fast, then that's a pretty good sign. So I don't know....it's a mixed vibe! He seems like he gets excited because he can't help but to have sexual urges so it's hard to say what he wants. One things for sure, if you end up having sex with him that's the only time you'll know what he's wanting, He will stick around if he likes you, but you may never hear from him again if he wasn't into you for the right reasons. Keep him waiting and don't have sex unless you two are actually dating for a period of time!

[Samantha_Jay]

Just because you fooled around doesn't mean that you're going to hell. From the sound of it, this guy really likes you and you should give him the chance to prove it to you. Birth control would not be a bad idea for multiple reasons, like let's say that you're having a good night and one thing leads to another, and you know. Birth control is good for more than just not making a baby when you don't want one. I'm on it because of problems once a month and acne, and because my husband and I don't want a baby right now. Just because he's not a virgin too doesn't mean anything. A good guy would wait for you to be ready, and i truly believe that this guy is capable of doing so.

Don't push him away just because you fooled around one time.