Rawr, would anyone have a medium answer to a long ?uestion?

[Izzy K]

First of all, i'd like to say any answer is valued, even the mean ones, harsh ones, as it only make me learn. Sometimes the most honest answers get 10 points from me (hint).

There is an obvious phenomena where MOST of the time, nerdy guys don't have much of a chance with a higher-status girl unless a unique event or situation arises. I have a theory as to why, but I'll say that later.

Here, i'll get to the point. There is this girl that i find absolutely astounding, not only in looks, but her personality is superb. Yes, we know each other, but please help me figure this one out:

Last year, I met her since she was in my precalc class and she randomly came up to me and said, "Hey (my name)" and gave me a hug. And not one of those fakes hugs some girls give to me, it was legitimate 2 arms and prolonged for a few seconds. After that until the mid point of the school year, we would hug in this fashion every day. But here's the key point: one day she asked me for my number so we could text. I didn't have a phone then. She said, "aww, I'm addicted to texting i was gonna text you tonite ". We all know how that made my day.

And we sat by each other but one day our seats were assigned and she sat across the classroom from me (frowny face). Then, it was 180, she wouldn't wave back in the hallway ( i felt stupid sometimes), we wouldn't hug anymore, talk anymore, heII, make eye contact anymore.

But this year, i got a cell phone. This year i did something im actually not so proud of. I remembered her asking for my phone number, but we recently became friends on Facebook, so i got her number off of there and started texting her. She jokingly said, "what, u stalking my Facebook page ", but i don't know if she was joking now. Every time i try to text her, she just says "hey" or "hi", gives me 1 or 2 word answers to stuff, and eventually doesn't text back.

Call me crazy, but this girl is worth it. She the most amazing ball of energy i've ever met, and i can't just sit back and do nothing about it. Yet. What should i do? Should i back off? Is this the hint she doesn't even want to be friends anymore?

My theory: sometimes higher-status girls may think nerd friends are only friends with them for the fact that they might get a status boost, or they don't want their own status to get ruined. I respect these, but i don't respect not coming clean to me about it.

I don't know... help me. And trust me, she's worth the trouble. This year she jokes with me in the hallway, and will tell me anything. She's just not all that in to texting, i guess.

[mindguy]

you missed the boat plain and simple don't worry I have missed out on opportunities like that before. Just learn from it and carpe diem next time

[Cookie]

when she met you she told you she was addicted to texting so the fact that she wont respond to you shows you that she doesnt want to talk to you. also have you thought that maybe she only talked to you cuz she thot you would help her with calc (cheat) and when you guys were moved she didnt need you anymore so she left you alone? think about these things. shes not giving you the time of day just move on to someone else and enjoy the convos and hugs.

[obedientDreamer732]

Ouch, sounds like a situation I can't stay away from...
Gorgeous woman, beautiful personality, likes you for the moment, & seems to busy for anybody.

I'm not gonna type out a whole lot, but think about it.
A gorgeous woman, with a great personality. She's probably super busy with everything, or doesn't necessarily wanna talk to you because you're not her type, I don't wanna be harsh, because this screwed me up in the head every time this happened to me..
But she's probably the flirty type, you can't ever expect anything much from them in terms of friends, they get so sidetracked that flirting almost consumes their mind..
Good luck, & don't get hung up on her.. It'll be the death of you..

[Parminder]

May be she is not really into texting . Go , talk with her. Since you have her number , talk with her on phone when possible. Show her some support and appreciation and she will start liking your company .
Best of luck.

[Jacki]

Sometimes high status girls are attracted to nerdy guys because it may seem kinda off limits(or mysterious or unknown). You may have been a fantasy and she actually had a crush on you.

Now that you are actually trying to act on what she was doing she may be freaking out in a nervous way because she is not sure what she wants anymore.

She could also have a crush on someone else and that may be why she is being short with you.

My advice (because you said she is worth it) is to ask to hang out some time as a friend really causal. coffee? doing hmwk together? But tell her she is pretty. Don't be just a friend, flirt and attract her without putting any pressure on her. Take things slow but don't be only a friend you have to flatter her.

I hope things work out =)

[Andrew]

Well I hope you know that there are many more girls out there and many other ones well come into your life. I think you need to talk to her face to face and kind of "test the waters" and maybe she if she wants to hang out sometime and just kind of see where that goes. But I maybe like you say, she thinks your just a friend. Where I come from we call that the "friends zone" and that's when a girl just likes you as a friend and she has always thought of you as a friend. But you want your relationship with her to be something a little deeper. So my best suggestion is what I said above a just try to hang out with her sometime, just the 2 of you. And don't forget to compliment her, girls like that, but you have to mean it! And just try to get closer to her in your relationship and talk to her! Talking is very important to every relationship. It makes them stronger and healthier. And in the end if it doesn't work out just know there will be another shot with someone else later and they will be better. The same type of thing happened to me. And the girl I found after her I have been dating for 2 years now and we are going on strong bc we talk about everything. Good luck and I hope this helps!

[Toиy]

It sounds like she pulled away when you told her you didn't have a phone. I'm guessing she thought it was an excuse for you to say you weren't interested. She probably still doubts that you like her. Go up and tell her that you miss her hugs.

Thanks for answering mine.

[SteelerNation]

I would advise you to get with a girl similar to you, as you keep on stating that the hotest girls dont go for nerdy, therefore a nerdy dude going out with hot girl will open up insecurities with the male, anyways text her an see how it goes