Do you believe a long distance relationship can work?

[shareefa]

So I've been talking to this guy on Twitter for a couple of months and he is really cute and I really like him. I talk to him on the phone almost everyday. We Skype only once. He is really funny and he makes me happy. I just love talking to him. The only problem is that he lives far away. I live in Washington and he lives in California and goes to USC. My friends tell me that I should meet a guy here in Washington. They say it will never work and that long distance relationships NEVER work. But they just don't understand I really like the guy and I'm starting to have feelings for him. Idk I'm so confused! Do you believe in long distance relationships and What should I do?

[Gunther]

No unfortunetly it will not work. Research shows long distances doom relationships. I tried one once but my girlfriend cheated on me with her tutor (who was a black guy)

[Mandi]

The only time I've seen long distance relationships work has been when they've been a regular relationship first. I've never seen one start out long distance and last long-term.

I have a few cousins who married people in the military. They had a few years of dating/early marriage before their spouses were deployed. They struggled a TON being apart, but because they knew that they were compatible it worked out. If they hadn't been sure of the potential of the relationship, it would have ended while they were apart.

I have a friend who met a guy, moved across the country to be with him, and then broke up with him a month and a half later. It was all great when they were long distance but as soon as they lived nearby (and they didn't live together, just in the same city), they realized that they weren't compatible.

My husband and I were technically long distance for a year while he was in college and I was still in high school. If it had gone on much longer, we probably wouldn't be together. It was awful. We held out knowing we'd be near each other again and so far it has been wonderful. We never would have lasted had it needed to remain long distance, though.

I would say you shouldn't hold out too much hope for this guy. People show their best side online/over the phone or even traits that they wish they have instead of ones they actually have. You don't know when/if you'll ever be able to meet him. It's just way too much for a new relationship to handle. Keep chatting, stay close, and if fate brings you closer then you could try to date.

[gentlecelery186]

Humans weren't designed to show emotions simply through writing or texting, or talking through the phone or video chat.

We were designed to communicate and socialize through a face-to-face method. And being in a relationship with someone, makes that method even more crucial.

When you're involved in a long-distance relationship, you have no idea what the other person is doing. You don't know how much people they could be flirting with, or even also dating. This isn't to say that ALL partners in a LD-relationship are cheaters, I'm just simply stating that as a logical hazard.

On top of that, true feelings for someone need to be expressed through touch, not through words or voices, transmitted by machines. I've seen WAY to many LD-relationships rise up and topple right down. I too am a victim of it.

It makes no sense, really. Unless the relationship started off strong with the two parties being physically together, then it most likely will not last.