No answering my question! :(?

[My]

I been dating this guy for a lil over a year and we have great chemistry, a strong bond. I feel it and he feels it..its like a deep connection. We always have a great time when we are together its always fun. But he doesnt want to committ to me yet..like be in a relationship w me. He said he wants to make sure our careers an priorities are taken care of so that everything will be perfect when we do take that step in becoming a couple. I want to believe him bc he is a person who likes to plan for,the future..he really is a great guy. Nut i dont want to believe that he wants me as his girlfriend in the long run bc he dont even want me as his girlfriend now! We havent had sex yet so i know he's not using that to keep me around..so im just trying to figure out does this guy really wanba be with me?? I met his siblings but the only one i have met is his mom!!! He always plans events that we can do in the future..like in two months he said we'll go NY. Idk i've fallen head over hills for this guy and wanna know why is he,keeping me around if we are not going to be in a rekationship yet? I think i should tell him that we need time apart until he's ready to be with me..

[katie2008]

If you've been dating for over a year, then you 'are' in a relationship. Just because he is not ready to commit to marriage, is no reason that he doesn't care for you.

Enjoy him, enjoy the time you spend with him and let it be.

Don't ever nag him about getting married; if you push too hard you'll probably end up pushing him away.

He sounds like a very reasonable, practical, and responsible man......they are very rare!

[Ron]

tags on what is going on is greatly overrated, if you guys do everything together, don't see other people then you are only seeing each other and that in my book is a relationship...can't figure out what you mean by you met his siblings but the only one you have met is his mom???

[Good Life by Love]

Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let years of perfect relationship before marriage (if you want you can always be engaged and married after years has passed). You can always accept the marriage ring and just marry when you have a few years of solid peace and love engagement/relationship. Make sure only settle for your soul mate with peace and keep in mind there are many soul mates. Arguing is normal but is it good? no, so make sure it is 7 years no arguments. After 7 solid years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

Also I see premarital counseling working.Church usually has it for free. You can even attend after marriage. Make sure no medicines.
Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace. He wants a feminine wife not a worker guy. If you make double what he makes he should stay home.
*Talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.
*Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.
*Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.
*Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.
*Remember your NEVER a push over, you LOVE so you give BUT if your ever taken advantage fix it asap with a calm talk in a private place with time to talk while hugging and ending it with a kiss and maybe love.
*Make sure your spouse can handle things, like if he is not good with money maybe he should handle it. I mean like saving for a 6 month rainy day and then increase that as much as you can as time goes on. Buy a house cash small to start and then bigger when you decide and ready to have a child so the child can stay in one community for their whole school life and a place to come home always during Holidays and for you to plant your plants and watch them grow and to grow old in, make sure to pay cash or go smaller if needed or just wait on the child/bigger home, peace is most important. Retirement, Vacations.
Also make sure to put a small bundle of money as a emergency fund for you

Also I see counseling working. Make sure no medicine
On another note: Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.
Love and the Good Life will come
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