I don't know what you call this feeling?

[always curious]

There is so much on this topic but I'm only going to give you the minimum that I can. I have a friend and she sucks ***. She never wants to go out with me unless I'm buying and driving. She's a gold digger that doesn't know it. She has been in a relationship for one month with a 26 year old man and she is nineteen and they just got engaged. Why? Because he pays for everything for her, even her schooling and honestly I don't know if she realizes what she's doing. Didn't used to be like this, we used to be beat friends and do everything together, in seventh grade we promised to be each others bridesmaids and I got engaged in July so of course she had to follow me and I don't even want her to be a bridesmaid. I'm a good girl, I have a head on my shoulders, pay all my own bills, and I'm putting myself through school. Me and my fiance are paying for our own wedding and honeymoon and we both have great job security. We are just looking at houses for when our lease runs out next august. And I'm only twenty!
I want to tell this girl to **** off but I feel like its hard because I believe she thinks she is doing no wrong. I am being so upset about it at this moment because she is posting pictures of her butt in a dress on Facebook just so people will say something about it..im like does your boyfriend not see this? Does it not bother him? And she just says oh I didn't know it went up there, but doesn't take it down? What the fuxk is wrong with this girl? Has anybody else ever had a friend like this??

[Seraphine]

My best recommendation is to stay away from her. No offense, but i dont think she thinks of u as a friend. She doesnt seem to be a good friend anyway.

[Sharon G]

First of all it is not your responsibility to change her. Second of all, she is unlikely to change and therefore your friendship might change. Take a real good look at the friendship and see if it really is a friendship....if you say --'She never wants to go out with me unless I'm buying and driving" then it really isn't a friendship ....she is just using you as she does with others.

When you choose to "bless and release" her --this means simply moving on without judging her as being wrong....life will open up new friendship for you that are more equitable

[Tristan Inman]

I have not had friends of such calibur, however, a direct solution might be the best way to talk to her about it. Being blunt, and telling people things they don't realize usually shocks them into understanding (usually; I don't know your friend personally, so I can't have much say in this). I'd reccomend asking her to come over when your Fiancée is out, and very bluntly explain to he what she's doing, and how it's hurting her. by bluntly, I mean just going straight out and directly confronting her issues. Try not to sound mean, or forceful, because after all, she is your friend. I'm mot saying that you should inult her either. Just plainly point it out, and tell her what she could do to better herself. So long as she doesn't have the mind of a fourteen year old imbecile like the people in my school, you should be fine. Good luck. (you don't have to do this if you don't want to. It is only a reccomendation)

[Iratespoon753]

1. Stop worrying about how your friend is with her boyfriend. It's none of your business. Judge her based on how she treats you

2. just because you knew her since seventh grade doesn't mean she wasn't like this then. When you are a kid you are often blind to peoples bad sides, that isn't in your face constantly. You have grown mentally which means you are more aware of your own personality and others. You have opinions and your own values now. You knew nothing when you were younger

3. Don't be so hard on people. You may not agree to what she is doing but there's no victims here. He is willing to give her those things out of his own free will. It's his choice and he obviously gets something from her in return, which he appreciates. He chose her for whatever reason, even if you don't see it. It's not really your business to either. What works for them etc.

4. Start putting your foot down. She has this behavior towards you, because you and people around her, let her get away with her excuses. You could always drop that passive agressive behavior and insist she pays her way upfront