Help.. this is my first time falling in love?

[Kitty]

im 13 and i just fell in love with a guy from my country on internet. ive met him only once and he seems to be so uninterested in me. Ive never dated anyone and nor have i found a guy attractive. But i dont know, my heart poudns everytime i stalk his twitter. WHAT TO DO?!

What do you do when you fall in love? this is really my first time! I was always proud of how Ive never fallen in love.. xD
LOL im not some desperate suicidal girl who cuts herself.. it's ok if he doesn't like me but i dont know how to confess

[Elena]

well i belive you can fall in love at any age but its hard to fugure out if your really in love or just really really crushing bad just kepp talking to him but dont semm desperate make him come to you. if he doesnt fell the same way dont worry that will happen in life just breath and eat alot of ice cream and delete him so u dont have to see his page and youll slowly move on.

[faithfularm845]

get to know him, im 14 and im in love with my girl, her problem kinda started out like yours, at first i wasnt looking at her like someone i would strt a relationship with cuz i wasnt thinking like tht, but she fell in luv with me on day 2, nd i fell in luv with her after tallking with her nd getting to know her

[GeauxGhoti]

I have one daughter that just turned 13 and another that's about to turn 15, so I realize that what I'm about to say may sound a bit condescending to you... I ask that you try to excuse that...

The feeling you describe is not actually love, even though we all refer to it that way. It is infatuation. It is an extraordinarily powerful emotion that gives us a sense of euphoria when we are anywhere near the object of it, or even thinking about him/her/it (yes, I said 'it' as this feeling can often present itself with objects, such as my first car).

This feeling is caused by a massive rush of chemicals from the brain. In other words, and put in an extremely simplistic way, it is a drug. It is a wonderful, legal drug provided to us by our own bodies. But, we should never make important decisions based on it, or under the influence of it, no matter how difficult that may be. In fact, this is a huge reason for our high divorce rate. People make decisions while under the influence of this feeling, then the feeling goes away, because the feeling is not forever, nor do we only feel it for one person in our lives. You will feel this feeling many times in your life and each time it will feel a little bit different for you, based on your perceptions of it and of the person you are feeling it for.

Love is, in and of itself, a very powerful thing. When you tell someone that you love them, you give them power over you. They can make you feel better than anyone else can, and they can hurt you more than anyone else can. This is not only true with a romantic love, either. Consider how good it feels to have your parents tell you they are proud of you, or how bad it feels if they tell you they are dissappointed in you, then consider how you would feel if some random stranger on the street said the same thing to you. The close relationship you have with your parents, and the vulnerability you have in such a relationship is the reason their words and actions can make you feel so good or bad. In a romantic relationship, this can be even more powerful, though.

Understand this: Love is not something you feel, necessarily. Love is something you do, even when you don't feel it. Love is a commitment. It is an act of your will, and sometimes it is a difficult one. For example, when your parents do something that really hurts or angers you, you do not immediately feel any emotion but the pain or anger associated with what they've done... But you don't go out and kill them, or run away from home and never speak to them again... That is when that great love is recognised. It is the thing that keeps you at home with them, and ensures that you will, at some point in time, get over it and mend the relationship. Because you love them.

Don't make a decision based solely on your emotional state or you will, I promise you, regret it. Instead, realize what the emotions are, and understand what you are feeling and why... Then, wait until the emotions have passed or lessened to make any real decisions.

And, congratulations on falling in love . It is an absolutely wonderful feeling, and this one... Your first one... Will never be forgotten.

BTW... My spelling kind of sucks and my spell checker isn't working too well atm... Yahoo is telling me that I have either 3 or 600 misspellings but Firefox is not showing any of them to me, so I apologize for not correcting them.