I think I'm in love?

[Ethan]

Okay, I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl on the cheeks before, and I think I'm getting desperate. I recently started talking to these 4 girls at my school who are friends of my friends, and at first I was just trying to make some friends who are girls. But then I started having thoughts that I liked them, then I started looking at pics of little girls (yes pedo I know but I have gone past that now, I am NOT a pedo), and so I started thinking I liked every girl I saw and would imagine them naked (creepy!!) but then...
I started talking to one of them, and now I really do like her! I haven't looked at porn in 3 days or even thought of any other girl since I started talking to her on facebook, and now we talk every day (been talking for 3 days)! I confessed to her that I like her (I don't like anyone except her, its like I fell in love with her). But when I told her, she didn't believe me. She has a boyfriend and have been dating for 3 months now, and I asked her if she loves him, and she said she does but doesn't feel like he likes her back.
I asked why and she said she just can't believe ANYONE would like her at all and said she wasn't much. I told her she is beautiful, smart, and very nice to talk to. But she still doesn't believe me.
I really like her and I think I've fallen in love with her, because I really enjoy talking to her, my heart races when I think about her, and no matter what she says to me, she always put a smile on my face. I was thinking of asking "if you wern't dating him, would you go out with me" but I don't think that's a very good idea... and I don't want to ask her out because she has a boyfriend and I'm friends with him. I want her to be happy, and I think I should wait a while AFTER they have broken up (if they do).

So the questions are:
1. Have I fallen in love, or do I just think this?
2. Should I try asking her out even if she has a boyfriend?
3. Should I wait until they break up to ask her out?

Please don't just say yes or no, explain in detail.
Thank you for your answers!!

[Aspen]

I think you can describe what you're feeling as a very strong affection... Maybe I'm wrong though, but I really think that to truly love a person it takes more than what you just said you feel. I also think that you should wait for her to break up with him... You don't want her to leave him for you. If she could do that to him she could very easily turn around and do it to you. So, maybe ask her in a gentle, curious way if she thinks you two could ever be more than friends. If she says yes, then say, "Good, I think so too. But I don't want to get hurt and I especially don't want you to, so I think you should work out everything with _____ (boyfriends name).". She'll know you're a good guy and that you're doing this because you care for her, it will probably help her to make her decision! best wishes