Should I break up with my boyfriend?

[Joseph]

So first of all, I'm a guy. And in advance, sorry for the novel!!
So I'm 14, and my boyfriend is 16. The two of us started talking on Facebook (a friend set us up with each other), and then 12 days later we started dating. He's a Junior in high school and I'm a Freshman. The thing is, I find it very hard to trust him. First of all, his ex boyfriend (Trevor, who lives about 20 minutes away) and him are very close friends. But they knew each other since Kindergarten. Trevor's current boyfriend is Matt, who I recently found out is ALSO my boyfriend's ex. Whenever my boyfriend goes over Trevor's house (like twice a month, but he sleeps over), the three of them always hang out. Which I already don't like. In addition, they go out to parties together. Like legit parties. There's tons of drinking, drugs (only marijuana, I think), tons of hook ups/sex, and basically everything else you can think of. And they stay out at these parties until about 2 a.m. My boyfriend, before he started dating me, was VERY promiscuous, and he'd have sex with about 3 guys (who he doesn't know) every party. Being a virgin, that makes me feel a bit uneasy, especially since he's cheated on both Trevor and Matt (his only other boyfriends). Since he's known them since he was very little and STILL cheated on them, if he's only known me for 3 months (we started talking September 2nd, and we started dating September 14th), then I know he's certainly capable of cheating on me too! Also, he drinks a lot at these parties. The last one he was at, about 1/2 hour after it started, he already drank about 12 beers. >_> So that doesn't help, because if he's drunk, then there's much more of a chance he could cheat. ALSO, he does drugs! Well, he DID drugs, only marijuana. I made him quit a while ago. But he tells me that "he'll do drugs if he wants to and that I can't stop him." So I don't think that that's gonna last much longer. He also asked me if he could do body shots and grind with other guys at these parties, and my answer was obviously no. It makes me feel really... awful knowing that he wants to do these things. I feel like I can't trust him at all, and the two friends I've told about all of this told me that he doesn't treat me with respect and that there are MANY guys out there who are far better than he is. By the way, he knows that I don't trust him with all of this going on. And I feel like he deserves for me to break up with him, but I love him SO much! He's my first true love, and I really really don't want to break up with him Any advice?

[Emily Forever]

If you don't think he could change, then you have to move on. It would be the best for you and you wouldn't be cheated on if you weren't with him in the first place. Hope everything works out.

[Kelly]

Sweatie you're only 14!!! i know its annoying to hear this all the time but seriously tho... your soooo young!!!! you should be focused on friends and school! what can you guys do together!! you're to young to work (there fore no money) hes too young to drive ( so he cant take you anywhere) wait till highschool..... and yeah... i do think you should break up!!! hope this helped.....

[Mircat]

Break up, there is always a second true love and third true love, etc.
One of these guys is going to give you AIDS if you aren't careful! In fact, break up then take an HIV test.

[PartyGirl]

It is really sweet how much you love him, but I hate to say that it sounds like he may not feel the same way about you. I mean, if he loved you as much as you love him (I'm guessing a lot) then why would he want to still see his ex? With the drinks and drugs, I don't think that is to upset you or anything like that, because many boys are like that at that age (rebelious, curious). I think the only thing you should be keeping an eye on is him with these other boys. Keep a close eye without becoming too overpowering.
Hope this helps

[Accetha]

wow. maybe you both need some time to yourselfs cause it seems like neither of you guys are ready for a relationship.

[Nicole]

The fact that you have to question this, is a bad sign. Honestly he doesnt sound like a good boyfriend, and as much as it may hurt you to break up with him, it would hurt you a lot more for you to find out that he cheated on you, believe me, i know.. i'm not saying that it is going to be easy, but i strongly advise you to break up with him for your sake. What ever your decision is, i wish you the very best of luck

[BizWax]

You already know the answer. You've caught yourself a wild one and you two are not compatible. Truth is, he's incapable of harnessing his life in a way that warrants being a major part of yours. He could be incredible! But he's not relationship material, you are... This doesn't mean you can't be friends! A major success in life is in how you set boundaries and nurture your relationships, and you are very much in charge of your own happiness. And people will treasure you and your time even more, because you're worth it. Best of luck to you!

[bailey]

Yes you should break up with him. He has probably cheated on you many times, and maybe you should go to one of the parties with him, and see if there is any guys there that he has been with in the past and ask question.

[ARG]

im sorry hun talk to him communication is key... I feel so bad for you he doesnt seem like a good influence either. if he keeps you on edge then hes not good for yo. you seem like you deserve better good luck i probably didnt help but i hope i did. only you can make the right decision.