She messages me all the time, it's getting obsessive, what to do?

[wittyhair387]

I asked something the other day, but I stated that I reckon this girl likes me...But I don't like her in return.

It started near to the end of May. We had just left school after finishing Year 11 and ready to move on with our lives. It was either the next day, or a week later that I was feeling down as I was a little stressed about finding out my final exam results, and posted a tweet. I had never spoke to her before in my life and she was asking me if I was okay, and we got talking and talking about life. Then we didn't speak until later on in the week, then she went on a weeks holiday the next day and then after that week, we has spoke to me on Facebook everyday since then.

Then it got to the end of July, and I was hanging around with one of my closest friends as it isn't often I see him, and I'll be honest, I have quite a crush on his sister who was with us. I was talking to this girl on Facebook about her, then she seemed to start looking for her on Facebook to see what she looked like.
Then she started asking me if me and her would ever go further than being friends, and when I said no, she replied with "Good" and she does this quite often.

Then after she said all this to me, I saw two tweets from her:

1. "I get Jealous way too easy"
2. "That should be me, not her"

She claims to me they were aimed at somebody else, but I do reckon it's weird how I talk about a girl I like and she posts them...

But my main problem here, is that she talks to me too much on Facebook. She's good to talk to, but every now and then, not all the time. And if I don't reply to one of her messages she is soon onto me on why I haven't replied. Or if I don't message her one day, she messages me instead. And I can't open the message, because it notifies her I saw it at a certain time.

If I was to try avoid her, she would see me on Twitter, see I was online on Facebook (even if I appear offline to her it will come up on Facebook mobile "Last active...10 minutes ago")

I don't want to be harsh to her. But I don't know what else to do. Help!

[Frustrated Fran]

That is a frustrating situation. I can totally sympathize that technology has made it incredibly hard to just distance yourself sometimes. Since you don't like her all you can do is be honest and tell her you are only interested in her as a friend. Then tell her that sometimes you really don't want to talk everyday. It's hard to be that straightforward, but I've learned it's the best way. Being polite doesn't always end well in matters like this. Be honest with her about how you feel. And it is creepy she's so jealous...she's just a friend and not a friend your interested in either. Good luck.