Should I stay with my girlfriend? She really wants to make things work, do you think we can?

[aConfusedMan]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for two years and she is absolutely amazing and thinks that I am too. I trust her completely and honestly could see myself being with her, we've often talked of getting engaged and taking our relationship to the next step. We are both seniors in college, but have been doing long distance for the last couple of months. I don't want to break-up, but I'm not sure what the right decision is and how to cope with it so I'm really looking for some help here. Maybe someone that has experienced something similar.

Basically, after a year and a half of dating we were both working internships over the summer and didn't have too much time to talk. I wasn't used to the whole distance ordeal so I didn't put in the time to talk to her like I should have. Instead I almost shunned her out so that I didn't have to think about it, only talking to her at night right before bed and maybe a few texts during the day which is unusual for us. Anyhow, we decided to break it off and not talk for a while so we both parted ways. After about two weeks I realized that life pretty much sucked without her and decided to see if she would be interested in getting back together or at least going out on a date. She said it was a possibility and we'd have to see how things went. After about 2 weeks of talking and going on dates we rekindled our love and decided to get back together even knowing more long distance was coming up. Everything has been perfect except one thing:

I asked her if she had seen anyone after we broke up and she told me no, I did not see anyone either during this time. I flew to see her over Thanksgiving, which is where I'm at now, and although things have been great I felt like she was hiding something. I snooped a little bit in her phone logs, awful I know and I've never done that before I actually threw up a couple of times because I was disgusted with myself and what I saw. She had texts to a guy she met at her internship AFTER we broke up and they had a one night fling and that was the end of it. She had told me she didn't see anyone so I was confused as she has always been completely honest. Some of the texts said he gave me the best orgasm I've ever had, it was like movie sex, etc. I saw no history of her ever talking to the guy and basically nothing had really happened. I found all this yesterday by the way.

I was feeling a bit beatdown, although we weren't together so she didn't really cheat, feelings hadn't completed faded after a short two weeks of being broken up. I'm assuming she did it because she was having a hard time coping with the fact that I was out of her life and reached out to anyone that would have her company. A little drinking accompanied with I think she made a regrettable decision.

I decided to give her one last chance to be honest yesterday after seeing this and I asked her if anything had happened between her and a guy at her work while we were broken up, trying to hint that I knew something in hopes she would tell the truth. She said they kissed but that was it, I calmly stated the situation and how I found out and believe it or not we had a very civil conversation and she told me the full truth. It was comforting to know that she is willing to talk about it, even after me snooping, and I know she really does care ya know?

It's not the sex that is bugging me, I can live with that. Meaningless drunk sex with a guy happens all the time so I hear, but the fact that she said it was amazing and she had the best orgasm ever is weird to me. Also, a week ago she requested this guy as a friend of Facebook, like I said they hadn't really talked or anything. They didn't talk on Facebook after the add either, but she added him not the other way around. I didn't know who the guy was until yesterday and that's when I asked why she added him on Facebook if she didn't have any feelings or didn't have a care in the world to talk to him. She replied with she doesn't really remember doing it and he means nothing, she said she doesn't have a great explanation for it and she probably doesn't make sense but that's all she can really say is that she wishes she could take it all back, while crying obviously.

Do you think she was just talking it up with one of her friends to try to make the best of the situation and get herself to feel better about us breaking up? (This refers to the great movie-like sex and orgasm) Also, should I forgive the situation? I know it wasn't cheating but will the feeling of thinking she slept with another guy stop haunting me, I know it's only been a day but does that go away after a while?
How do you feel about the Facebook thing and how do you think I should feel about it? I'm a little confused by it, but I'm trying to logically come up with a sensible reason?

[Se7en]

And so, what are you feeling about all this?

Most Real Men (Who doesn't ignore their instincts and gut feelings to their protect relationship) would feel disgust.

All I can say is that this shows how poor your GF is when it comes to making decisions and I understand she cheated but why all the lies? Big RED Flag. The fact that she did not give up on her lies until the last moment shows the signs of a possible serial cheater. I think it's best to break it off with her before you get further hurt. You guys are going to have many more downfalls in your relationship and the same scenario is more likely to be repeated again.

[Veronica C]

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