PLEASE HELP!! :( (10 POINTS TO BEST ANSWER)?

[Laura]

My best friend and I have been together for nearly more than 10 years, and we love each other but these past couple months she's been so attached to her boyfriend it's unbelievable, she chose to go out and spend time with him today on her birthday rather than me.. it just hurts me that this is happening.. before we used to go out together and have a nice time but I've been kicked out to next week to spend some time together. Her boyfriend is really nice I like him, but he's been around for three years and I've been around for more than that.

If you think 'get over it' I can't we are more than friends, we are like sisters but she's not even making me feel like she thinks it like that. When she goes out she rings her boyfriend and says I'm shopping would you like anything, every single time she's outside. I never actually remember her ringing me and asking me if I would like anything.

Every night she's on the phone to her boyfriend to talk and say good night and every morning she rings to say good morning. I never remember her even texting me say good night, unless i said it to her. She gets irritated with some stuff i say even though i didn't mean it the way she thought i said it.

I'm just so upset, these past couple weeks she also chooses to ask other for advice and complain on facebook instead of talking to me, i confronted all these things to her but she just says thats not true! and got a way round it.. but I just can't help and feel like she's starting to drift away.

before we used to make plans about staying together when we got older but now she's looking at universities and courses where her boyfriend lives. what can i do, just give up and carry on with my own life or just put up with it like all the time

[S]

Why so serious?

[bethany]

You could start ignoring her, she what her reaction is when/if she starts feelin left out then tell her why. I hope i helped i have been in this situtaion before. xxx

[Tori]

i say you should confront her about it and say "look, you have been spending so much time with him, you have been obsessed with him! please spend more time with me because its not fair!" if she disagrees with you or refuses or refuses to change then she is not a true friend and you will just have to "get over it" no matter how hard it may be , xxxx good luck

[Brooke]

I can relate, I have had my best friend for seven years and we are closer than some people can understand. Due to emotional stresses and issues over the years we have come to rely on each other, especially since her diagnosis with depression, anxiety and PTSD. I have a bad protective streak and she used to be very attached to me. I was her only support and what she used to claim to be "the only thing keeping her sane". Since she found a boyfriend a few months ago it has started to feel like she doesn't need or want me around and like I get in the way of them. You have a few different options with this depending on what your friend is like;
1) Drop her cold turkey, it will hurt.. a lot. this is something that I was told to do a lot when it started with my friend but something I couldn't personally face. It could be the right thing for you however, There is the possibility that she will realise she needs you again, that her relationship won't go well and she wil come back to you in due time.
2) Give her the choice, tell her straight up that you can't handle this anymore. Tell her she either starts appreciating you or you will find a friend who will.
3) Put up with it from a distance, don't confront her, don't completely drop her. Just ignore the nasty stuff.
4) Show her that your in pain, if she realises what she has been putting you through and makes an effort to change she is a true friend. If she doesn't you need a new one.
Sometimes it takes tears to bring them back to earth, if you are not a person who cries a lot do it anyway, or your equivalent of crying. If she doesn't care at all then you need to accept that she doesn't truly care about you and you need to find a new best friend.
Hope this helps, good luck! <3

[Horse lover!!!]

If shes drifting away, you cant stop her. If shes more attached to him than you, you cant change that. I know it hurts, but you've got no choice. If she is starting to forget you, thats her choice. But trust me, she'll remember you.

I used to have a best friend and she was soooo nice. And i would just try to play with other popular kids instead of her, i mean i liked her but a lot of times i wouldnt play with her,but she still called me her best friend. She considered me like her sister!!! Then one day she moved away. I was sad, but she was crying and was super sad. She came over the day before she left and we said bye and everything and she left. She would call me but i couldnt call her because i didnt know her new number and neither did she. Then one day she stopped calling. After awhile, i realized what a great friend she was and that i probably lost the bestest of best friends that i could ever have. And i regret that i didnt plat with her a lot or know her phone number and i especially regret i wasnt a good friend to her. I would cry because i missed her. Your friend will probably always remember you even if you lose contact.

I wish u the best!!!!!!

[hope]

Sorry that you're feeling left out just talk to her and tell her how you feel. but you have to understand that sometimes when people find a boyfriend/girlfriend that they want to settle down with, friendships sometimes start to drift apart because they put all their time in the relationship they have with that person. I still love my best friend, we still keep in touch sometimes but we are married and have children now. People grow up.

Maybe you should make some plans like pick a day that you two can go and hang out together. Good luck to u.

[Jojo]

Cant do much in this case. I too had this experience.It was painful watching my friend go away with his girlfriend. Leaving me alone ( we were best friends and yes not gays).I had to accept the reality that he as a friend had no time for for me anymore. So, we drifted apart from each other and became just good friends from best friends. In the meantime, i started spending my time with my other friends to fill up the void and luckily found solace in their company. Slowly the pain of losing best friend was lessened as now I had more close friends then before to rely on. Slowly, i came over that and it stopped me bothering afterwards. So, please look after your other friends. They would be of great help in this situation.