I am having issues with a coworker, how should I handle this?

[Lynn]

This girl I work with has a major attitude problem and has a snappy tone anytime I talk to her...I have always been nice and polite to this person and have never talked bad behind her back or done anything for her to have a problem with me as far as I know. A couple other people at work have mentioned her having an attitude with them as well, including my boyfriend who works there too. Well, the shit hit the fan on Sunday when I confided in someone I thought was a friend about the situation with the girl always giving me an attitude. I specifically asked her not to say anything, and no more than 5 minutes later she is talking to the girl about what I said. Then, she posts all this negative shit about me and my boyfriend on facebook, calling me a bitch and a crazy ho and saying my boyfriend has his head shoved up his ass! Not to mention my boss who I was close with, is commenting on her post and basically siding with her. I am so pissed off and upset because I haven't done anything to this person, my boyfriend has never even talked to her aside from one time at work where she called him from returns bitching at him about being a door greeter and now I feel like people at work who I thought were friends (who I've worked with for years) are backstabbers and can't be trusted since they seem to be taking this bitches side. It takes alot for me to control my temper when someone has done me wrong and I feel like I am not going to be able to refrain from cussing this bitch out at work. I don't know what to do about the situation and I also don't know what her vendetta is against me and my boyfriend...

[Thomas]

If your coworker and your boss comment about work related issues on face book and work related involves her attitude guess what? Violations of work rules seem almost absolute - in our comany such an issue brought to Hr wouold result in the termination of the two employees speaking out on facebook

[Zach Miller]

Listen to me closely. That b!tch works for the Russian Mafia. She was sent from Russia, and was appointed by President Vladimir Putin personally. His aim is to take over the world one country at a time. In order to do that he has to take over each country one workplace at a time. What you must do is anonymously call the CIA and report her as a Russian agent. If you cant do that you must anonymously call the police and report her on some trumped up charge, like drug possession or some crap. Then you must inform your work colleagues about how she was actually a Russian spy.

[caraohara]

Bullies don't need to have some sort of vendetta ...they do what the do , because they can . Also you co workers are afraid of the bully ...just like in school ....everyone sided with the bully . As you said she is nasty to other people ...so it's not just you . I suggest you go to someone in a very senior position and let them know what is going , just so it is put on record , you also need to keep dates and time of her bullying or any sort of harassment . If she is saying anything about work related things on fb then she wont get away with that . In the meantime , have nothing to do with her but if she gets physical ...do not retaliate just have her arrested for assault . Your "boss " is way out of line ....it's possible he is also afraid of her . Don't show your fear / disgust , just show your indifference .

[Tina D.]

Call the Corporate HR, file a formal complaint. Most buissnesses have a rule about supervisors, or higher ups fratenising with subordinates, in or out of work, especially discussing work related issues on public social media. Try and print the conversations from fb on your printer (make copies) and attach them to your written formal complaint. (make a copy of the complaint form as well). DONOT mention the fact that you have filed a complaint...to anyone at, or outside of work. Trust me...some people are only friends, with the person they just happen to be with at the moment. Given the opportunity to make themselves appear to be a loyal "friend" to the person there with at the moment?...they will, without a second thought...throw you under the bus (if you know what i mean). Hope this helped, and good luck!