Should I go to my friend's baby shower?

[Ann]

Long story short my friend is having a baby shower next weekend for herself and her husband even though the baby is not her husbands. Its some other guys kid. She cheated on her hubby a month before the wedding (several times) and ended up getting pregnant. I had already said yes to being a bridesmaid so I supported my friend through her wedding even though I felt like the whole thing was a joke at that point. Now my friend and her new hubby are telling everyone its his kid even though most of us know its not. They are acting like its a normal everyday pregnancy. My friend claims that God forgave her for all her sins and that her hubby loves the baby as if it was his. I just think the whole thing is a total joke and I feel bad for everyone involved. Both my friend's family and her husband's were devastated when they found out my friend had cheated and that resulted in a child. Neither family wanted them to get married but went along with it anyway mostly because everything was paid for.

My friend is constantly quoting bible versus on Facebook about how God saved her soul and that she found the person she is supposed to be with and that this baby is a gift from God and what not. I sit there and read all this and I am like you cheated a month before the wedding and then got knocked up. I really don't support this whole thing. I think my friend is being totally fake to everyone she loves and it is going to bite her in the butt at some point. I don't want her to suffer. Please don't think that. I just wish she would own up to her mistakes and be honest with everyone instead of lie and pretend that it is her hubby's kid when its not. I hate that she is saying God did this for her. If he did thats a pretty sick joke in my eyes. The person I feel the worst for is her husband. He is a push over. I asked him why he was still going to marry her and he said because he loved her. I am sorry but in my eyes love only goes so far. I wouldn't marry my fiancé if I found out he cheated on me. And he said the same. He was said "I would have called off the wedding if it had been us." I realize people are all different and feel differently about certain things but I can not understand why he married her. She's a wonderful, sweet person but still a cheater and a liar. I know I shouldn't judge her and I should just be there for her but I really just can't. I am expected to be at this baby shower next week but I really don't want to go. My friend knows how I feel about this and she just keeps saying I will get over it and that its really not my place to feel one way or the other. And I guess she is right. I really don't have a right to be judgmental but I just can't help it. I find it so hard to be happy for her when its all a big fat lie. What should I do? What would you do in this situation?

And btw in case anyone is wondering we are not teens. We are adults. So its not like this was a teenager mistake. She knew what she was doing.

[lola]

support her and go to the shower. Although she did do something bad, continue being her friend. Sounds like she could use a few level headed people and you are one of them. I say, go to her shower but let her know that you still do not care for what happened before.

[C M]

you should go at least for the baby's sake. This kid is going to need people with sense around them.

[Caroline]

Honestly, if you have so much trouble with this, then you should not go. The fact is that it's her decision and her husband's decision how to treat this pregnancy. You can think whatever you want, and I happen to agree with you, but it's not your issue.
I personally would not go. I have a younger sister who got married to a prize A-Hole. He had beaten her once or twice and was verbally abusive. I got an email inviting me to their wedding (being held that weekend) at her house. I was not given her address, nor the time of the wedding. I did not go for a variety of reasons, but mostly it was because I did not support her decision and I am almost completely incapable of faking anything. I figured she should have people there who actually supported her, and her stupid decision, lol, so I stayed home.
They were divorced in less than a year. Me being right about his dumb ass didn't make me feel any better, but at least I remained true to my convictions. My sister was upset that I didn't go, but I only found that out years later. I kind of felt like, well, my absence didn't stop the sham wedding so I don't see why my presence would have mattered.

[Amelia]

if u have sex before marriage u go to hell no forgiveness the biggest sin in the bible! check the bible! ur not even allowed to look at the opposite sex let alone have boyfriends or premarital relationships. What has the western world come to , women wearing hot pants n tanks like its normal in church thts called a prostitute!