how do i stop caring so much about what people think?

[eagerpot119]

i get embarrassed by everything. there are songs i like that i wont put on my ipod because theyre either wierd or crazy. some of the songs are normal and i still dont add them. when i go on the bus or train, i feel like everyone stares at me, thinks bad things about me, laughs at me, and talks about me. i dont like to talk about my problems or how i feel because i think no one cares. sometimes i say funny things, and people laugh, but then i get embarrassed. if my hair gets frizzy or my makeup gets messed up when i go out, i worry that people will think im not pretty. i have funny conversations on facebook where everyone can see, then i think people will think im weird. i dont put pictures of quotes or funny pictures on facebook even though i want to sometimes. i know these things arent bad and im not doing anything wrong when i do this. can someone help me? what can i do to not care so much about what everyone thinks of me? how do i stop being embarrassed by everything?

[Johnathon]

What you need to do is figure out what it is that you do and don't like about yourself. You don't always have to like everything you do, but you should ALWAYS love yourself unconditionally. We always critisize ourselves more than others and assume that others are criticizing us even more than we do. You shoud make it a point to accept yourself for who you are, and love yourself. If people can't accept that, then they are not your true friends and there are others who will. Try not to be so hard on yourself.

[1013countryboy]

I have the same problem. Just do NOT do the same things I did. I cut myself 4 times, I tried to commit suicide and I completely got rid of EVERY friend I have had. Do not do any of those cause it would help, it only makes things worse.

So I dealt with it by doing this. When people laughed at me for saying something stupid, I laughed with them. I just acted like nothing was bothering me and then after a few weeks, I actually started to feel better.

That's what I did and it worked for me. BUT before everything I stopped caring, I began to have even worse problems so I stopped thinking about that other stuff. So what I did MAY not have actually worked.

[Kym J]

The best piece of advice I was ever given in regards to this was that its none of my business what other people think of me. I can't control people's opinions and judgements, and being told this really gave me a new perspective on things. If you like certain music - listen to it and embrace it. I love show tunes, metal, rock, pop - nearly everything! And I'm not ashamed of it anymore, because I don't care if people think that's silly. I know I'm not the best looking person out there, but no one is. Everyone has flaws, be it externally or internally. No one is perfect (except leelu in fifth element). If you are concerned about what is going on Facebook, think about what you are saying before you submit it. Best of luck.

[Amanda]

I'm guessing your young? It's normal for people to feel this way, everyone goes through it. I once felt like that when I have certain music in my iPod I was embarrassed for my friends to see it cause they listened to hip hop & I liked hip hop but I also liked country music. As you grow up your gonna realize that they are a lot of different people, everyone can't be the same. Dare to be different. It shows courage, uniqueness, and leadership. Next thing you know it people are gonna wanna follow on what you like or may even adapt to it. You shouldn't hide the real you. Always be yourself people will appreciate you more, trust me. No one wants to hang out with someone who being something they're not. And if people make fun of you, so what. It's love & hate at the same thing. They feel low of them self so they pick on someone else so they can feel good about their self. Just be yourself. That's all you can do. It'll get better & you'll hang out with a crowd of friends who like you for you.

[Joe]

You need to see a therapist and work on your self esteem. Once you have more self worth, what other people think (or what you imagine they think) wont matter so much.

[Skyyyy]

I know exactly how you feel. And there's nothing wrong with caring about what people think because sometimes you'll really need the criticism and outside opinions but over time, you'll learn to not care. When I was 12/13 I always was concerned with how I looked, if people liked me, if my Myspace looked nice, and all this stuff.. But now I honestly couldn't care less. Sometimes I won't post something because I know I wouldn't get any likes but most of the time, and sometimes I'm self conscious about my hair or my clothes... But you just have to understand that there is NO ONE in the world that is like you. They don't know who you are at all no matter how close you get to them. You have to live your life for yourself and do you. Go put the songs you like on your iPod right now and rock out. No one is going to know the music you have on your iPod unless you let them hold it, unlock it, and scroll through all your music! Who cares if people are staring at you on the bus? It may feel like it but people stare at everything all the time. No one is going to think your weird... and most of the times people will not care!

Don't be embarrassed! I have people who are complete idiots on Facebook who are constantly posting a whole bunch of quotes and they write in all caps, and they're always angry at the world. I'm sure no one will judge you. How old are you by the way?

[quietthrone464]

You can go to homeopathy and more.com and fill out the form and see what remedies show
up for your general personality. Some people are extra sensitive and some have a high
fear of rejection or humiliation from events from the past. Homeopathy can deal with out of
balance emotional states and help clear the root cause of those states.

The other part, is you need to meditate on your belief system- which usually is inherited from
your culture or parents. The truth is all humans have value bc we all come from the divine
and that energy is inside us or we would not be alive- No person is better than another person-
no person has everything figured out and if they judge you they have plenty of things that
can be said about them- I don't care who they are. You don't hand over how you feel about
yourself to another "human". If people are mean, judge you, etc etc then find some other
good people to hang out with. When you are in high school age - people run with the herd and it
is a rather brutal time for sensitive people. When you get to 18 and up - it starts easing up-
but if you have your belief system right, it is not going to affect you so much.

[Tin-God]

by telling your self you are not the center of the world
I use to be the same, getting a hair cut was a dread for me coz i could not stand having it cut when there where other people in the shop waiting for there turn.
if i went into a shop and picked up some milk and got in a line for the till, then noticed the milk was sour i would still buy it and walk out the shop coz i would be to embarrassed to say something.
i just got to a point where it was really affecting my life and i just thought, there is nothing i can do about what people think so what is the point in worrying about it

[The Devils troll]

I used to care constantly about everything people thought about me (sometimes i still do), but when people say that you are wierd take it as a compliment say "thanks". One because everyone is wierd/unique and if you weren't life would be boring and two because it surprises them and makes them shutup. When in public just remember not everyone notices you/knows you so just think why would they talk about you. Just do what you want not what others want you to do. What im saying may sound fake, but it works i stopped listening to other people and now i grew out my hair (im a guy and no im not gay) people told me to cut it, i refused for awile so now noone bugs me because they know i will not care. Trust me on this(even though im a kid).