I need help dealing with my insecurities in my relationship and my boyfriends ex girlfreind?

[confused]

Hello everyone!

I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and are planning on getting married and only now have I become insecure about my boyfriend’s past!

I only found out now that he dated a girl before us for about a month and had been checking her Facebook lately. I know that he had dated another girl for about 1 year before us, didn’t know about this one. BTW He is my first.

I feel VERY insecure. I have no idea why! He never talks to her. They have no contact that I know of. I feel like she is pretty, she is in the same professional field as him (so they can meet up in the future), she looks like a very nice person.

I feel dumb! I need help on how to get over this. I have talked to him about this and he says he loves me very much and would NEVER go back to her ever. But why would he look at her Facebook a number of times if he doesn’t care about her? Does he secretly still have feeling for her but is scared to take it forward? I asked him this and he called me crazy lol And I feel crazy. How do I make this go away? Ugh I feel like a monster

I am a mess! help before I ruin our relationship please!

[secret]

You MUST tell him everything. It's okay that you feel insecure, it's bc you just don't know! You want to look after yourself, and make sure you don't find yourself foolish after marriage. You can't get married if there are insecurities. Then you won't be as happy as you can be. Don't be scared of him! Just be honest, and if he is dishonest you should take things slower.

[zendall]

Six years is a very long time. People often check Facebook profiles just out of curiosity and it doesn't mean they are particularly attached to the person. Its great that he is your first, but it is common in today's society for people to have several relationships before settling down. Relax and concerntrate on planning your wedding.