I dont think my boyfriend is faithful, what to do?

[blondiepink]

You see I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, (he lives in turkey and I live in california) Despite the different timezone, the only way we talk is online like facebook, skype, text, etc. Anyway my problem is that he always going from a girl to girl that ineterest him. Sometimes he won't talk to me for days just to talk to her (like right now) When I start to complain he would be denying it and tells me that there just friends but I've seen their conversations and he is very flirtacious. And not only that, sometimes he tells me stories where he made a girl turn on and he gets bothered because I get upset. He tells me is not big deal. And another time where he told me about a girl he knows that needs to get laid (he explain to me very vulgar) because she's emo and apart from that he tells me she's really attractive. I was bothered and upset and I told him that's wrong and he said "what's wrong on admiting she's a hot and attractive woman" I don't think he's trustworthy, to me atleast. I feel if there is an open girl coming on to him, yes he will cheat on me. He has several pages on facebook as well, he's telling me one of them but I found one where he talks to this girl a lot posting on his wall "she has a beautiful voice! :3 " and stuff like that. I don't know what to do, I mean I tried dumping him so many times but he will be like "I will change" "I'm sorry" "teach me what I did wrong" but I don't know I gave him so many chances honestly I'm tired/ angry of this and his behaviour, and should I talk to him first that something is bothering me knowing that he still hasent talk to me in days?

[Crinson]

Leave. Just leave. He isn't worth it! As soon as he lies down with another woman, he is history. Don't let him ever do that to you. Just leave.

If you want to talk to him again, go for it, but he isn't worth it. Leave him.

[Daniel]

yes

[?]

leave. he will never change unless he learns and if you want him to learn then just dump him, have him crawl back and let him beg why you left again and throw in his face what you just told us and then say that you are not one of his guy friends and that that if he really loved you then she he would quit acting like a pimp and show you better attention and to knock this off and then don't let him respond, just say goodbye and leave it there... it will drive him crazy and force him to change but don't let him back until he PROVES THAT HE'S CHANGED........ that should work.... maybe even date another guy and post it on facebook to drive him mad......

[luckygal]

He lives in turkey!!!!!!!! That's A FRICKING LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP!!!!!! Girl it ain't even worth it. He's making you fell bad, when you'll never even see him. Yah, it's nice being able to talk to someone. But you can still be friends with him, but keeping this "relationship" if you can even call it that, going is ridiculous. It's just gonna really hurt you. He knows he can get away with it and then sweet talk his way back in, but girl your not gonna be one of those push-over girls that he can walk all over. Hate to break it to ya, but this has gotta stop before it hurts you anymore. And if you stay together, where is the relationship going to? There's no point to it, it'll be those same conversations, on Skype and fb, for as long as you can put up with it. And in the end you'll be thinking why the hell did I put up with this for so long when I could be having a REAL relationship, with someone I can touch hold kiss and talk to without the need of a screen or phone. I guarantee it'll just start hurting more and more unless it stops now. I'm really sorry to sound rude, but I just want to help, and make you realize... Good luck sweetie xx

[Crystal]

There is absolutely no reason for him to tell the woman he loves about intimate conversations/relations that he has with other women. To cause such pointless hurt and unnecessary hardship within the relationship is complete nonsense to me.

Hes not worth it sweetheart, I promise you. You don't deserve to feel like this.

The greatest strength in a relationship is not only connection, but trust. After the bull he's put you through, I 100% understand if you feel neither with him. I mean, two of the most imperative elements in maintaining a HEALTHY relationship have been compromised! The trust has been severed; so has your connection.

Now if it were me, I wouldn't call, text, gravel, or explain anything to him. I wouldn't consider him worthy of listening ears or second chances. But if your mind is already made up and you just have to work it out then:

You need to fully communicate to him what qualities you need in a good, solid partner. If you want someone trustworthy, loving, and attentive, communicate that to him. If you're uncomfortable with his flirtatious conversations and straying ways, lay down the laws and implement them. However, there is only so much you can do from all the way around the world.

Good luck love