what should I do about my relationship?

[nanners170]

So I've been dating this guy for about three months now. At first, I didn't really know how I felt about him, I liked him but wasn't sure if I liked him with the intentions of dating. It doesn't help that we hooked up the first night we hung out (only oral, no sex) and I'm 18 and he's 19. So from the start I felt like we rushed into things. We've obviously stayed together though and I do love him. A big problem we have is that he's black and I'm white and only part of my family knows. I'm too afraid to tell my dad because chances are good he won't approve and he'll be extremely mean about it. I decided I wouldn't even think about bringing it up until things between us became more serious, which I thought was a good idea because I'm still pretty young and have no idea where my life will go and if he'll be in it. Here's where the real trouble is right now though: this past week for thanksgiving he's been in Oklahoma because that's where he moved here from. He's been hanging out with his friends and sister and I'm glad he's been having a good time. Saturday though, I saw a picture of him on twitter kissing another girl on the cheek. They honestly looked like a couple in the picture and she is really pretty so of course, I was very upset. I told him I was mad and he justified it by saying she's a lesbian so I had nothing to worry about. I was still pissed but didn't want to talk about it so I kept saying "ok" and "I'm not mad" even though he knew I was. We dropped it and moved on for a while but I was still upset. I came back to school yesterday and told my roommate about it. She instantly said that if that was her, she'd break up with him. I texted him and told him that I was still upset. He said he had already said sorry and he meant it but he'd understand if I hated him. I hate that he turned it into a "poor him" situation because I was the one that was hurt. I went on to tell him how when he flirts with other girls on Twitter, it hurts me and it makes me feel like I'm not special and that when he says "I understand if you hate me" it seems like he's just giving up. I told him I wanted him to fight for me, not just give up and he said he didn't understand what that meant because I have no competition. I told him that obviously I do feel like there is competition and that that picture destroyed me when I saw it because they looked like a couple in it. I don't know if I should stay with him or break up over this. I really don't think he'd ever cheat on me but the flirting really hurts me. In a sense, by staying with him I could cause serious problems with my family. I love him, but is he worth that kind of pain? He treats me really good besides this. We go out on dates and he's always there if I need him but lately I just feel like we aren't on the same page. He says he's terrible at relationships and that makes me worry. I don't know if I could go through with breaking up with him though. Its really hard to imagine him not being my boyfriend and he shows his emotions more than other guys I've been with. I've been broken up with before and I know if he broke up with me I'd cry maybe for a few days, but then I'd start my healing process. He doesn't want to hurt me and I don't want to hurt him, so what do we do? Is he worth it?

[Chase]

you are both too young to be in a serious relationship.

[!]

Hmmm... I'm not really even sure ... if your having so many problems and questions just break it off... i don't mean to sound harsh, but if your questioning yourself to much about this guy just give it some space... And i don't think your to young to be in a serious relationship love is love... It's all in God's plans.

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[Colleen]

No relationship will work without trust. You have to trust him and be confident in your self. If he makes you feel insecure then it's time to cut your losses and move on to a man who you will be secure and happy with. You are still young i doubt this is "the one".

[Angie]

U have trust issues. U need to trust him if he says she's a lesbian then she is one. If he flirts with other girls then it's not a big deal it's not like he's cheating on u. If u really like this guy then don't give up. If ur parents don't like him just because he's black that's not good excuse. Just fight for each other.

[Travis Harris]

Age isn't the problem with serious relationships. The amount of effort and work you're mature enough to put into a relationship is what makes it serious. Playing the 'poor me' card is immature but it's also immature to be upset at him AGAIN after talking to a friend and getting their opinion. So what if she'd do something differently? If you wanna' be with him, you just gotta' trust him. If he makes you generally happy? You gotta' trust him. And he two. It's give and take. Tell him what makes you uncomfortable but you've gotta' be mature about it. As of now, it sounds like neither of you know what's to come. These are such small obstacles that if you can't get through THESE you two are gonna' be in some really tough spots later. You gotta' make a decision now and if you do, you gotta' stick with it and quit your worrying. If you do worry, keep it to yourself.

[Grant]

I was in the exact same instance it sounds like (except my family just never acted like they liked her). She ended up cheating on me many times while I still loved her. I thought she was everything. It is very biased, but I would get out now while it'll hurt less.