the comfortable feeling with gf of 3 years was lost after *read desc* should i jump to conclusions?

[iKaz]

we've been together for 3 years. i feel that the comfortable feeling was lost after our on and off relationship and lack of communication because of each other's busyness. i don't want to get out of this relationship but is this still right? we went to mall earlier to the mall and played games and we had so much fun. but i can't feel that 'excitement' feeling that much.

[an_random]

that tends to happen in relationships. Be patient, give it a couple weeks and if you still dont feel that complete and utter joy then you might want reconsider your relationship status.

[giganticlumber590]

"on and off relationship"

first off, why on and off? that's not good.

"lack of communication" just fix it by bonding and hanging out with her more...more dates, yes?

"i don't want to get out of this relationship but is this still right?" If you're questioning, they say that's a bad sign but who knows, give it some time, then evaluate like the pereson, I mean person, above me said :-)

"but i can't feel that 'excitement' feeling that much." Three years is a long time and you cannot really expect to be always feeling "excitement". Try something different with her first? Also, you should really know her well enough now to know and tell her anything. 3 years is no joke to know someone.

[Good Life by Love]

talk to him about it. If you still feel the same maybe you should move on. Love and Soul mate is VERY IMPORTANT


Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage. After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if wanted.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace.

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.
Also now focus on your school, job and chores. Make sure to give much love to both parents, help where you can.

School= College you want to go to, major you will go for, student aid of fee waivers or even scholarships ( go to the college your thinking about and just go to the student center and schedule a consular to discuss all this. They are very helpful. You might need to revisit to check that your on track. You can even take college course now if you wanted. Make sure your high schooling is on top of it's game.

Job=find any decent job near by that works with your schedule. Maybe waitress which gets good tips and you can talk so time will go by fast. Make sure to be smart, because there are many smart guys out there trying to trick girls with money.

Chores, just do them asap.

I hope this all will help.


On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I also like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,

Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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