What do you do when you get friends requests from people you dated in high school on face book?

[Zeta Baneta Private Investigator]

I got a request from an old class mate I dated and my wife go a request on the same day from someone she dated.

I don't really use mine and she does, and she uses mine , made it to get extra points on a game. She showed me the requests and yeah it was something to see how people change but I am not into it more than that.

So what is the way to not offend anyone? And if I just leave it and do nothing will it eventually expire? And my wives you can see activity on her page, mine you can't.

Those experienced what can you tell me?

[fatWarrior264]

I'm not a douchebag with no life or friends, so I don't have facebook.

[Poppy]

You're asking in the wrong forum. Hope that helps some.

[shannon02114]

People I have asked think it is best to accept the friendship and then just block the person. You can go into settings on facebook and pick and choose who can see your stuff.
I would, however, personally, just ignore the request unless I did not want to hurt the persons feelings.
Then again, I never put anything on facebook the whole world can't see. And the marriage part. As long as you and your spouse can see each others stuff.......it's above board.

[Citizen X]

i think if you are that worried about talking to someone from your past, you should delete your page and move to a new country. Or live in a cave away from everyone.

[me]

From multiple articles online regarding Facebook...

December 2009 - Facebook fuelling divorce, research claims.

The social networking site, which connects old friends and allows users to make new ones online, is being blamed for an increasing number of marital breakdowns.

One law firm, which specializes in divorce, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook.

The root of the problem should come as no surprise: Too many spouses are using the social network for flirting -- or more.

"The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to," Mark Keenan, Divorce-Online's managing director, is quoted as saying.

The antidote --- be very married . In our society, the opportunity for infidelity will present itself (unless you live in a cave), and if you are not all the way in your marriage (think of a submarine), then you are in danger of eventually taking on water.

There are certain bad behaviors that simply don't lend themselves to a happy marriage.

[Dragonfly Girl]

I'm friends with a few exes on FaceBook, it's no big deal. We said hi once or twice when we first friended, and haven't spoken since. It's just interesting to get a little update once in a while from people from my past, whether they were boyfriends, friends or acquaintances.

If you decline a friend request, the other person doesn't get a notification that you did that. So you might as well just decline it rather than wait for it to expire, which I'm pretty sure it doesn't. I've left a few on there for several weeks without responding and they never went away.

So I would say either just decline it or accept and let it fade into noncommunication, which it tends to do. But your wife might not like that, I dunno.

[T]

The wife put some privacy settings on your profile, it sounds like. Accept the friend request, and tailor your privacy settings to allow specific people to see only specific kinds of info on you.

No the friend request never expires. You can choose to ignore it, if you wish, but they will know you are ignoring their request. And then, what if you go to a reunion? They will probably be hurt.

It doesn't hurt to accept the request, it's not like you're saying you'll be best friends or anything. It just says that you could send messages and see each other's uploaded photos, if you want. No big deal.

[rachel d]

i have an ex on my page, my hubby has some of his on h is page~ its no big deal~ their exes from yrs ago and also exes for a reason! were mature about it,

[Mightyalarm277]

If you're both mature adults, there's no reason you can't accept a friend request from someone that far in the past. I've had a blast reconnecting with people I knew in high school and college, including people I dated. If you didn't really like the person back then, however, it makes sense if you don't want to accept their friend request.

If it's someone who has over 100 friends, add them, then delete them a few days later, and they will never know the difference until/unless they try to look you up in their friends list, and most people like this will satisfy their curiosity in a few days and move on anyway.

There are a few people I've tried to reconnect with who ignored my request, and my feelings weren't hurt by it. It's not the end of the world if someone doesn't "friend" you on Facebook.