Can I tell her to stop?

[Dream Wonderland]

Ok, so, my mum is starting to get on my nerves. I have two accounts on facebook, the second made because of her but the reason why I got it still happening. Its driving me mad! My mum just goes onto my account whenever she wants, does whatever she wants to my games and /never/ asks me!

When it first started, she wanted to "borrow" my password to send herself some gifts on her games. I trusted her and gave it her. But then she started going on it, looking at my notifications so most of the time I missed stuff, and starting games she was playing that I was planning to start when I had a bit more time. All this so she could comeplete goals and whatever!

So, I changed my password, after asking her many times not to do it. When she couldn't acess my account, she asked me what my password was and I said "I dont want you to keep going on my account." She threaturned to ban me off my laptop, called me selfish and making it seem as if she hadn't been doing anything.

I had to give it her, but this time, I made a new account. I didn't tell my mum at first, not wanting her to steal this one, and eventually she found out. She then guessed my password for that account and got in without telling me! I tell her to stop but she ignores me! I asked her if I could go on her account to send myself presents, but of course, that wasn't aloud. Im getting really annoyed of her thinking I dont have a say! Please help! I know its kinda sad were doing this over a flipping social website!

[Danster]

Ask her why she wants to see everything you get up to. Chances are she is doing it to protect you. You need to let her know you value the fact that she cares, but she has to trust you to be careful, and realise that your relationship is strong enough for you to tell her if there's something to be orried about, or something you need her to know.

Don't get petty, don't lose your cool, speak to her as equal and show you can be trusted, and explain you want to have a life outside of what she knows and that it is not dangerous. You could show her that you knowing all her business is inappropriate too, and if she wants to kno anything about your life she can ask you and you will listen.

I hope, and think, she will come around, she just needs reassurance and the right words and actions.

God luck, hope it i resolved soon!

[Asking]

You forgot to mention your age, if you are 12 - 15, I say your mom can check your facebook anytime she wants. If not, let her know that you need to have your privacy, she might be worry about what you do on facebook but she has to trust you.