How do i get my family together?? HELP!!!?

[Marie]

I Have 7 siblings and am the last born.
my family is always at war and we never had peace,
they fight mostly because of very small issues,
My dad is soft spoken and most of the times he is avoiding any involvments with any disagreement.
my mum takes sides and is very favouristic.
This has affected me in every corner of my life as a teenager.
I have never really known the happyness of having a family.

[Coach Simon]

How hard for you. Strong, secure people don't feel a need to argue, shout, name call, bully, etc. Your father seems to have the right idea, although his children don't appear to follow his example! The only person you can work on is yourself, and if you keep away from arguments by refusing to give strong opinions, avoiding defending your viewpoint (hard, I know), repeating stuff about yourself that they already know, etc., you'll be a more peaceful person. Maybe others will pick up that you are happier as a result.

One thing that will come out of this is that when it comes to creating your own family, you will make sure that you choose your partner carefully (being in love is not enough), and bring your children up to be happy and confident. There are plenty of books out there.

Good Luck!

[Good Life by Love]

You can start by being the bridges. It feels really good, I know.


I like to just add because maybe I got your attention:
Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage. After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love
: Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace.

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.


On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I also like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,

Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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