How do I keep from breaking down emotionally?

[Meryl Montgomery]

My boyfriend and I were in a serious relationship and 2 days ago he decided for us to go on an extended break. I have no idea what went wrong! Im confused, Im frustrated, Im exhausted! He insists that our relationship has changed and we are lacking in some areas and they need worked on. But in the process Im trying not to cry and break down all the time I need help and Im so angry! I want him back there are things that I need now! please help. any advice?

[Edward Z]

if hes not interested in talking about it, then u should let him go and get on with ur life
good luck

[sunset]

I will repeat this, anyone who breaks up, no matter how determined they seem, always does so with doubt, thinking to themselves if they are doing the right thing, the safe thing. Walking away from you, knowing how much you love him, provides him a safety net. This safety net means he feels safe in walking away because if later on he regrets the break up he is sure you will be there, waiting to take him back. So the obvious is to remove that safety net. Turn the tables on him and let him know that after thinking it over you felt that it is for the best to go on an extended break. Trust me, no matter how he responds to you, he will be shocked at the turn of events. If you truly want him back then you MUST accept the break up and your silence will convince him that you meant what you said. He will then feel the sense of lost. He will constantly find himself checking his phone to see if you have tried to contact him. It is crucial that you do not no matter if it kills you. Later on he will start to wonder what changed you He may even try and get you jealous to see your reaction. IGNORE him. Do not ask friends about him, avoid running into him, in other words make yourself scare. This will drive him nuts! Trust me on this!

[Good Life by Love]

Are you sure you want him back???? Think it through??? If yes then change and then ask him what else you want him for you to change on top of the change already you have done.

Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage (if you want you can always be engaged and married after that 7 years has passed). After 7 solid years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love
Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace. He wants a feminine wife not a worker guy

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.


On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I also like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,

Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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