I'm sure I will look really bad, but please answer anyway?

[K]

I already know I will be judged, referred to as a "homewrecker", a "hoe", etc. But you have to understand it's not ALL my fault. I do take responsibility for my part in it, but please read.

Two years ago, when I was 17, I was lead on by a married man (age 27 at the time). He lead me on for 7 months. When I told him how I felt about him, he cut ties with me, blocked me on Facebook and his wife blocked me on Facebook as well, though me and her never met each other nor did she even know I existed before then. Basically, I was made out to look like the bad person, that I messed up.

For the past few months, I've been getting notifications on a Facebook game from my friend's father. He sends me "drinks" and "winks" at me on the game. He sent the first of both actions and I send them back, but at one point, he sent a total of 23...all on his own. The other day, both me and his wife and his daughter (my friend) were around while he was playing this game. I guess it was the firs time his wife had ever been around whilst he was looking at the notifications and I acted like I didn't hear him, but he said I send them to him so he just sends them back and I'm pretty sure he said I'm trying to turn him into an "alcoholic." She didn't seem mad or anything, but still.

My question is...why am I always made to look like the bad one? It's partially my fault, but it's partially theirs too.
Cory-What "important" facts are you speaking of?

[Chris]

Because that's just how people are, they'll toss the blame over to the other person if it'll save their ass. You've got to learn to do it before them. :/

Also, I hope that you don't think that you're a bad person for any of this especially that first part. People make mistakes, don't worry about it.

[Cory]

You're deliberately omitting important facts about the situation with the married man. That tells me you are the "bad one".

[Jikoniau]

I'm not sure how well I can answer your question, but I'll try anyways. I think often it's the case that the nice innocent one is the one that's made out to be the bad guy. This is probably because the people that are actually bad are the ones that will shift the blame, and lie so that others believe them. where as the innocent one just tells mainly the truth and is less likely to try and twist things to get there way. So if you're made out to be the bad guy, then it's probably due to people inability to believe what others say if they heard something else first from someone they know.

Note: When I say bad guy and innocent one I'm saying it metaphorically, don't take it literally.

[LO:yea]

You're not a hoe. I think you are perfectly fine the way you act. Why would a 17-year-old put so much adult-molesting pressure on herself when all she's doing is being "molested"?

You should not think it is your fault. Adult men act weirdly sometimes and in saying that, it includes my dad >.<

[layla]

You aren't a homewrecker or a hoe! However, for your own self esteem I would stay away from the married men. Also staying away from your friends parents is probably a good idea.
As for the facebook notifications...it's just a facebook game. It's not causing any damage to anyone. He may of very well just been making a joke to his wife or acting like a child.
You aren't always the bad one and I'm sure not everyone sees you that way. You should be confident in the choices you made and have no regrets.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt

[Sarah]

oh dear you did mistakes but you are so young. this is the guys fault. who ever blamed you wanted to move on with their life and ofcourse they always need to blame some one to make an excuse for their behaviour. if i where you i would never get involve with a man who already has wife even gf, but then you see, any thing can happen and i wont judge. i suggest from now on don't fall for these guys. always remember they need you maybe because they don't have a happy life but you don't need this. you dont need to get involve with people like them. they are the one who are cheating and they are those to be blamed. if you were my younger sister i would have loved you to hang out with boys in ur age and try it that way. love is so beautiful and falling in love with the right person is so important!!! please try it.... dont fall for lies.those men are asswholes. they are using and cheating and at the end they will blame you and you will be the bitch in the story which u are not. yoiu are also a victom and i know, and you know and every one who is wise know that. so dont blame urself just act smarter.