What do I say to my friend who is getting over a short affair?

[Mymist4]

I have a friend who had a fling with her high school boyfriend (we are 44 years old) over this past year, while her marriage is far from ideal, she feels guilty about the affair. She continues to talk about the ex, she says she only wants them to be friends, but he does not seem interested. She is a good person and I truly believe she would only do his with this particular guy, she just never got over him. What can I tell her to do to just forget about him and move on.

[Gurl Know]

Tell her she should always remember to love herself more than a man.
She needs to think about why she decided to have an affair?
And what is it about this person that she feels he can give that her husband can not?
She needs to think about who she is and what she really wants.

[Good Life by Love]

She is married and as a friend let her know this is not good karma and she is lucky no one found out. She needs to stay focus and take care of husband and kids.

also tell her: After 7 years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace.

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.


On another note: Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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