How can you tell if a man really cares for you or even loves you?

[mary t]

I've been seeing someone for 6 months, my feelings are strong and he doesn't know. He's told me on more than one occasion that he loves me, but say's he is joking, when I have said 'You probably do' in order to find out, he takes it away harshly and tells me he doesn't! We get on really really well, but have both been hurt badly in the past, and both shy away at commitment and expressing our feelings. We are exclusive to each other though and wouldn't go with anyone else! Hope someone can answer my question!

[Fanaticalbomb932]

well, in a relationship you guys need to be mature about honesty and express your feelings if you guys really like each other. the way he jokes around, it seems as though he thinks of your relationship as a friendship. tell him you want to talk to him and ask him where the relationship is going and if he's really in it as you are. make sure to be honest about all your feelings and everything that is bothering you about him.

[sillybucket058]

Maybe he does love you but doesn't feel comfortable expressing it seriously because he has been hurt in the past. And/or maybe he's gauging to see if you love him too b/c if you do then he would feel more comfortable telling you that he loves you, in other words, maybe he doesn't want to say it until he's first sure that you feel the same way as he does.

But sometimes it's a crapshoot at first. But the longer and longer you know him the less able he'll be able to hide his feelings (no matter what they are). That's why they say you shouldn't marry anyone you have known less than a year. This is because you get to know who a person truly is after about a year.

[Good Life by Love]

by the little things


I like to just add because maybe I got your attention:
Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage (if you want you can always be engaged and married after that 7 years has passed). After 7 solid years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love
Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace. He wants a feminine wife not a worker guy

Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.

On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I also like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,

Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

Love and the Good Life will come

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