My ex and I were mutually emailing when he just stopped. I thought he was just playing a game.?

[Evania]

But come to find out that being the VP of a company and using his email address (which I asked him not to do) I continued to email him because, though we had an argument I wanted to resolve things. I stupidly just used the subject line to send my emails because he wasn't opening any of my emails. Then out of the blue I get this from him -

I was notified by our corporate IT security team that I have been receiving emails from you for the past several months. Without going back into the history, I decided to block out your emails when I realized that the unfriendly emails may be common place. My email routing was changed buy IT and I only receive internal corp. emails directly. All others go through a screening process based on my contact list and email content. I was told today that I have received over 25 messages - reportedly from you over the last couple months. Is this true? When I went through this process, I signed a document that basically takes me out of the loop. In other words, it gets turned over to people that pursue legal remedies based on my previous permission.

I just wanted to make sure you understand where this could head. I am not asking for a reply - I will not be able to receive it.

1st - I'd like to answer his question about the 25 emails. He wasn't opening my emails and I thought this was another one of his control/power games. I used the subject line only so he would see it in his inbox and read it. Nothing was in the body. I wanted to resolve the issue and move on and I thought niceties via email would work. I had NO IDEA he blocked my emails and I'm more astounded that he got IT and legal involved. He never told me not to email him again. Odd.

2nd. - I would like to clear my name a let him know that the threat of legal action has caused my family so much distress. I would like to know where things are at. I called the company who said they would get back to me as soon as things were resolved. Well, that was over a month ago. I need information so me and my family can move on. My spouse was completely aware of my emails/emailing my ex because it was rather innocent just as an FYI.

I know most will just say "forget him and don't email him again" but I recently found out that this was planned to hurt me and I really can't wait any longer. I'm his b*tch right now and he knows he has power and control over me which is his M.O. I want to know if he is pursuing anything. I didn't think he'd do this so he is capable of anything.

Can I email him one last email with answers to his questions and a request for information on where things stand. I'd like to defend myself, too. How does one get past a rerouting and contact list filtering. I know his friends so I could use a pseudonym just to get past IT. I don't have a clue on how to do this. It isn't right that he can defame me, turn me over to IT and Legal and not allow me the ability to respond in any way.

[Richard]

Basically, if he is only accepting emails from internal company accounts and addresses in his contact list then you won't be able to email him directly. If he is specifically blocking your address, you could set up another email account such as hotmail, gmail or yahoo mail. But from what he has said this almost certainly will not work.

You could try emailing a third party within the company. Perhaps the webmaster or an info or sales address or something, and ask them to print the email and pass it to him. There is absolutely no guarantee that this will work. You could also try postal mail.

You might see if he uses social network sites such as facebook or twitter, and see if you can contact him that way. You might only get one chance using these routes as he may block you as soon as he realises who is contacting him. Just make your first message a good one.

You may be better just to give up, unless there is some pressing legal reason why you need to contact him. If there is, get a lawyer to send him a letter.

If you keep trying to contact him just to 'keep in touch' you may be subject to legal proceedings for harassment depending on what your local laws dictate.

Good luck.