Why is he suddenly ignoring me?

[ashley]

I apologize that this is long but there's a long background story to this. It's about my ex; I'm currently 19 and he's currently 20 but this started 5 years ago.

So about 5 years ago I was dating this boy who lives in Florida. I live in Massachusetts. We were together for about 8 months but he ended up ending things because it was SO impossible to see each other. We were young, neither of our parents would let us go see each other, it just wasn't going to work out. It took me awhile but I accepted it, and since then we have always remained very good friends.

He'd always disappear and then reappear into my life without ever explaining why. I don't know why he did it, but whenever he did he always came back. Within the last year and a half, we finally reached the point where we could be really good friends without any issues. Since then we have been the absolute best of friends, we'd even try and help each other with our relationship problems. Back in November I found out about my ex of 3 years cheating on me with a lot of girls. I was very upset but he was there, and when I was talking to him about it he said, "It hurts that I've wanted you for years and I can't even have you, but he can and doesn't even appreciate you." So there it was, he still loved me. Since then he'd occasionally randomly let me know that he loves me.

About 2 weeks ago I went to Florida for spring break. One day he picked me up and brought me over to his house. He was so happy to see me, he walked up to me smiling and gave me the biggest hug. When we got to his house we ended up having sex, and then spent the rest of our time together just cuddling and watching a movie. When it was time to say goodbye, he picked me up and hugged me. It was really cute and he texted me later that night saying he was glad he saw me.

My problem is that since then, he's been REALLY distant towards me. He was pretty distant beforehand because he has problems going on in his personal life which he explained to me, but I noticed that he's also been extra distant since I left Florida. He never unblocked me on facebook (a week before I was in Florida we got in a HUGE fight, our first argument ever actually, and he blocked me out of anger). At first I just thought that maybe it's because he's sad that I had to leave, and scared because he doesn't know when we'll see each other again. He continued to ignore all my texts and phone calls, and I left him a long text explaining that seeing him rekindled a lot of old feelings for me, I apologized for being clingy and annoying and I said that I just want to know what's wrong and that I'd be a whole lot more understanding and would be happy to give him space if he just communicated with me. However he's continued to ignore me. Then today I noticed that he randomly blocked me on twitter. I just don't understand why all of a sudden he wants nothing to do with me, when he's been in love with me for 5 years now.
He doesn't have a current girlfriend though. We've both seen people since each other and have been there for each other when our relationships fell through. It's just that deep down we've both always still had feelings for each other, we've just tried to ignore them because we know the distance is hard. He's always been a genuinely awesome friend, even when no one else was there for me.
I just feel like if it weren't genuine then he wouldn't have kept it up for 5 years. He wouldn't have called me when I was crying over other boys or get upset seeing me upset about other boys.
Sorry if that sounded rude haha I didn't mean that at all, just thought I'd add that little tid bit. But you could be right. I know he does still talk to his most recent ex but last I knew she was with another guy. He may still have a bit of feelings for her as well, all I know is he's always still had feelings for me.

But thank you for the advice, I actually did have a girlfriend friend request him so we'll see what happens. It just doesn't seem like him that he'd be hiding girls, because every time there was another girl involved he told me about it. Plus the fact that he blocked me on twitter was completely random considering he doesn't even tweet or talk to anyone on twitter, just uses it as a source for news. Who knows. Thank you though. (:

[Tristan]

First, I want to say that I could be totally wrong here, and that I'm no expert by any means on relationships. To me, it seems that he is one of those guys who was just trying to get his dick wet. I could be wrong of course, (I know nothing about your time as a couple, like how quickly you moved, or when he moved away or anything like that), but to me, it seems like he was just keeping you attached enough to allowing things to happen when you DID get to see each other. With technology today, you don't know who else he could have been talking to the entire time, or anythign like that. The blocking you on websites shows that he probably doesn't want some other girl to know about you. Trust me, I hate making guys look bad when i say this, because I'm a good guy who would never do anything like it, but I also know that it could happen. 5 years is a really long time though for someone to keep that up, so maybe there truly are things in his life that have forced him away from you. I'm sure you've tried calling and whatnot, and you don't want to seem stalkerish, but if you looked around his Facebook and stuff like that, or Tumblr if he has one, you can really find out a lot of what he thinks. Not an optimistic answer, I know, but the one I think is most likely, but again, I could be completely wrong, and I don't want to ruin your day on a whim.

[Lil]

Thanks for answering my question now heres my opinion.

A man will do and say all the right things if theres a chance to get what he wants. SEX. Fortunate for him is that you live so far away and can't cause any real problems between him and his current GF. A bestfriend wouldn't do you that way. Blocking you from his pages is a very smart thing to do. That allows you to find who his current chick is and inbox her causing more caos. Long distant relationships hardley ever work. I would cut contact with him. He's a loser. Im in florida too, come visit me. hehe. J/K

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I understand. I was just giving an opinion. If you were my bestfriend i would not argue with you or block you from my social networks. Seems strange. My whole life i have never had 1 arguement with anyone i consider a friend. As far as him haveing a girl or not, you can believe what you want. He's 20yrs old or so, best believe he has a chick or two he's dealing with. Maybe nothing serious, but sex is most likely in the equation. Why don't you have one of your girlfriends send a friend request and do some investigation of your own and see what you find.