Am i in the wrong? i know this is lame but i want advice?

[Adri]

Today my boyfriend found out I had a facebook..big deal huh. Well he's really pissed at me..I kept it from him because I know he'd be mad about it...the only reason I really got it was to be in touch with friends like myspace..I never really used it. He's mad because I have guys friends on there..I feel he thinks I'm a whore. Honestly I never talked to any guy on there..never used my inbox chatting or posts. And these are pppl my siblings know too cause we all work together..I posted I was in a relationship and even had me and my boyfriends pictures on there. Before I had told him he couldn't have a facebook because I don't trust him..he's lied to me before a bunch of times that's why..I know I know this is so stupid and I know some of u are probably thinking why be with a guy like this cause that's exactly what'd I tell my friends. I have never gave him a reason not to trust me. Its my birthday tomrrow and I know its gna be shitty now cause of this..o well happy 22nd right?..what do u guys think?

[Kristen]

had he given you a reason not to trust him with a facebook page? if so and you honestly haven't done anything to make him suspicious, i'd break up with him if i was you because I couldn't deal with the drama. if neither of you trust eachother for no reason, i'd have a conversation about why that is and agree to be more trusting of eachother

[Dark angel]

Since you went behind his back and got a Facebook account, let him get one. At least you can both be untrusting together. It is never wise to attempt to control someone else's life or allow them to control yours.

[GanjaKing420]

ya, he is a shitty bf, id dump him, u can find sum1 u trust n hu trusts u
i get he'd be mad cuz u sed he coodnt n now u have one
but its not like ur hookin up on dere lol, plus its a socail site not a dating site
n dat sux he ruinned ur bday!!!!!!
good lukk!!!!!!!

[john]

Honey, your relationship is already doomed. And I'm not trying to be an ass-hole, I'm just going to give you some insight to your dilemma.

You told him that he couldn't have a Facebook page because you don't trust him (I'm guessing he was looking for a little slap and tickle in the friends list). Who are you? His mother! Honey, he's a grown man and if he can't be trusted with a Facebook page, then he can't be trusted with much, now can he? Facebook is highly overrated, but that's beside the point. If you tell him he can't have one, that is conditional forgiveness. In other words, you're saying, we can be together but (as long as) you don't have a Facebook page. What will you take away next...his cell phone? That builds resentment in his mind. Either forgive him completely, or not at all.

Secondly, I would be a little afraid of that "he's mad because I have guy friends on there" business. That is a recipe for disaster. If every time you talk to a guy he goes ballistic, then you have excluded yourself from half of the population (or are there more girls then men??? I don't know...Irrelevant!). My friend had a boyfriend who started out that way, and the next think you know, he was threatening to kill her dogs and paint the windows black all because she answered the door for her brother an sister-in-law, and didn't have a bra on underneath her t-shirt (She was housecleaning at the time...terrible housekeeper, but that's a different story).

The point of the story is, you are basing each others trust on trivial things like Facebook (Isn't that just Twitter with more features?). How can you have a good realationship if you have already started placing restrictions on each other? That's supposed to come AFTER marriage. Honey, I'm not saying you are in the wrong. I'm just saying that if you are going to forgive him DO IT...Or don't do nothing at all! Except maybe looking for a new home for your pets