should i bail on this date tomorrow?

[Daynaaa]

i can't even really tell if it's a "date" or not..

here's the story...
i asked this guy who lives about forty minutes away from me out a few months ago and he basically said "sure, whenever you're in the area just give me a heads up"
i never was in the area, so i just never said anything.. i felt like he wasn't eager about it, since he responded without any enthusiasm about seeing me.
now, those few months have passed and he sent me a message on facebook saying "hey i'm going to be in your area tomorrow, wanna grab some lunch?" i said yes, but then he ended up not going to the thing he was scheduled to go to that day, so i just said "how about we just have lunch next week sometime?"
he just responded "yeah sure whenever, just give me a heads up" so nonchalantly.
so when friday, the day i suggested, rolled around he told me he was sick and called out of work and couldn't go.. when i looked at his twitter--i don't have one so he doesn't know i can read his tweets-- (immature i know, but whatever haha) he said he stayed home friday to watch basketball for march madness.
he suggested monday instead.. during his workday.. so i would only see him on his lunch break for like half an hour and drive home.

he's just making things dumb and hardly seems interested.
should i just not go tomorrow? should i say something first if i do that?
so here's what i've composed as a text:

"hey alex.. sorry to say this so last minute but i'm realizing it's kinda far to drive to midlands if we're just gonna see each other for like twenty minutes on your break.. haha, so maybe we'll do something else in the future, just not necessarily that."

does that sound okay?

[Mastertown452]

Sounds like you're not that excited about it either, and yeah it does seems like he's not that interested. It doesn't really sound like a date though in my opinion. If it were me I wouldn't go, but let him know before tomorrow so you're not cancelling last-minute. Good luck

[ashley]

Honestly, I'd say he's not worth your time. I know that sucks, because you obviously have developed some feelings for the guy. I wouldn't suggest any other dates, and see if he comes to you to make a date. When that happens, say you have plans. If there is one thing I know, it is that guys love the thrill of the chase. If you become less available, if he's in to you, you become a challenge. I wouldn't go. A 45min drive for a 30min lunch does not sound worth it.

Hope this helps

[Stickolas]

Well it seems like he doesn't really care. Just tell him your sick and if he suggests something else just say that you don't feel like it. or that you have a very busy scheduler now..

[Lauren Maier]

it depends if you really like him then yeah stick around. go and try to be interesting but dont be something youre not but if its only a little crush maybe show up and leave early or dont go and have a little fun with the situation. ya know make HIM want YOU. make him feel bad and wonder about you. it may work and it may not but if you dont care THAT MUCH then it will always be experience for you. hope this helps if you need anything more inbox me...if u can do that.

[DarrenB]

You should definitely blow the guy off and just delete his number and forget about him. one if he is taking off work to watch sports then what type of guy is he going to be in the future. Imagine 10 years from now and say that you are married to him and have kids and your child has a play they are in or something and he says you should just go and video tape so he can watch it later and enjoy his saturday off to relax.

I know that's a weird way to look at it but people date to find out who will be a good potential partner for marriage and he seems a little lacking in the areas of what makes a man a real man. He is just an adolescent in an adult body.

[Alexia]

It sounds like he's just being annoying...If you don't want to go and it sounds like he doesn't either let it go. Don't say anything. If he mentions it you can always say sorry I've been really busy...Who cares; no one says you have to...With the information you have provided that clearly states you both don't want to go, it'll probably boring anyway, so it'd be a waste of time. Good luck; I hope this helps.

[Robert B]

tell him that it's too long a drive. I wouldn't consider him a liar just yet though, because maybe he watched basketball while he was sick.

[LOL]

Tell him something came up or you can't afford to drive so far. It really doesn't seem like he's interested at all and it isn't worth your time. If he really liked you and wanted to see you, he would have seen you by now. He's come up with a few excuses as to why he couldn't get together with you, so I wouldn't feel guilty about cancelling. There is still time to cancel. I would call and let him know before tomorrow.

Edit: Yep. The text sounds fine. I would go with that.