Pick up artistry - what do you think?

[Dave]

So I stumbled on some videos on youtube called "day game pick up artists how to". Simply put.. its about normal looking guys walking up to girls on the street, in club and coffee shops... or wherever and just chatting them up for phone numbers. Most guys though its simply about getting as many numbers dates and sexual encounters as possible. The thing is these girls are really pretty, and these guys are really random. Like the guy just walks up... compliments her on something and then starts chatting to her by asking her random questions... 2 mins later he asks if she'd like to go and get some coffee(This is called getting an instant date) and continue the chat or if not, asks for her number. look a lot of times guys fail... but actually in a day they can get like 2/3 numbers...!?!?!?!?

I've been single for 4 years... not because I'm ugly or anything... I'm pretty confident when it comes to my appearance.. its more my lack of GENERAL confidence and finding it really difficult to meet new people. This looks like a good solution to my problem to be honest.



What do girls think about guys just walking up to them and say something like hey I know this random I think you are really pretty and didn't wanna miss the chance of telling you, ...."she says thank you" and then .. I ask something like so are you from London? .. and so it continues until she tells me to F off or I get her number...


Good idea?


What do you guys think? To weird or awkward?

[aha!]

Your tactic doesn't seem to be much of a problem. If she is nice enough to engage in a relaxed social conversation, she may be into you and that should be enough to get a number. If she is giving one word answers, and putting up barriers, there's no rapport or she will definitely say no because of some reason.

Confidence is somewhat critical. If there is an underlying cause for the lack of it, I recommend counselling to get rid of any unwanted skeletons you have in your closet. Then, I recommend you talk to a coach on dating or pick up.

Personally, I don't think picking up is that hard. Then again, people say I have looks that will definitely help. I have got numbers and I have talked to many women before, so it's not so much of a problem for me.

Theoretically, in any conversation you need some sort of opener. A compliment works okay, but you may find it only works on some. I say some because some people are receptive to compliments, others less so because it sounds like you want something from them. There will be rejections no matter what technique you choose or who you use it on. Pick a style that works for you and your values. There are plenty schools of thoughts out there for your taking and there should be enough variety to cater everyone tastes.

I am not particularly fond of scripted speech unless you're only using it as a default model. Sticking too much to scripts without enough flexibility can hurt your chances. I tend to focus on the theory and inner game before moving onto the tactics, which I can use depending on the situation and the person involved. Hence, I tend not to get into awkward situations myself.

In essence, I don't think pick up artistry is bad per se, because it gets people socialising and moves them on with their life. However, I am against exploiting people and using the art to manipulate. I know what my values are and what my boundaries are. If I don't agree with something I either will not proceed with it or not use it at all.

Experience is probably more important than the material, and hence your inner game is more important than your outer game. If you have something, try it. It's sort of like marketing where you're testing everything and whilst having fun with it at the same time. If you only read up on the material, and never use it, your success rate will always be 0. Without experience and a proper mindset, most of the things you do can come across as superficial and fake; get your confidence and inner game sorted, and you have a firm foundation to work with and you don't seem like you're just blagging it.

Hope this helps