How do you get over your first love of 3 years?

[Miss Australia xo]

I've loved him for 3 years, we broke up for many many reasons but I won't get into that. Basically, he didn't treat me like he should have, I got upset with him, he said he did want to stay with me but then a week later he dumped me right before my birthday through text. I love him with every little piece of me but I don't want to be with him at the same time.

Please help, I can't get over it. Theres days where I need him, where I wanna cuddle him and fall asleep on his chest like I used to, where I just wanna call him and hear his voice but then theres times where I just wanna be over it so I can find someone better.

I hate this.
Thank you so much to everyone who answered, it means alot to me and made me feel a little better I don't think we will be getting back together, but we're kinda just friends at the moment, we just dont really talk at all haha. But I think I might take your advice and go out and talk to new people, thank you thank you thankyou! xx

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a new heart can mend a broken heart

[Chunky Lard]

Don't know what to say really. Hopefully, in time, you'll forget about why you love him, remember how badly he treated you and you'll be able to move on.

[Nicole]

He broke up with you over text? Wow, shady. He doesn't seem like a true gentlemen or the type of guy you should be with. I suggest, deleting his number, delete him off facebook, twitter, instagram, whatever. Delete all the pictures you have of him and with him, throw away everything that reminds you of him, delete all his texts in your phone and all your calls from him. Try talking to other guys! I swear this works every time. Whenever I'm upset over a guy, I just start talking to a new guy and it really helps! I really loved this guy (so I though) for like 4 years and he really hurt me. It was so hard to get over him but finally I realized he was no good for me, I can find someone better, I started talking to new guys and wala! I'm over him I actually hate him now haha. But anyways, start talking to new boys, and keep yourself busy! Watch tv a lot to get your mind off things. Clean, do homework, exercise, anything! And I don't know if you're a religious person, but praying really helps me. Good luck

[Leen Gene X]

I'll try where Im not good at giving some advice for that kind of issue about moving on. Im also feeling very hard on moving on but you have to hate that person or he must give up on you so you can both move on?

Right now...you must be hard to believe its over but everything has an end. I've been through with it many times and really i never thought i would meet someone new but FIND someone who can make you more happy and if he you think is the one then don't let him go. 3 years is very long year and if this is just ending so soon then you have to atleast Fight for it? Do something about it emotionally and physically.

Then don't be alone for this... only you and him can feel these pain maybe you have to Open Up to him soon.. Find out the reason why it has to end? Is it for good or not?
If its good then make him as your friend? If not then completely move on.


If i am in that situation I'm gonna feel VERY TERRIBLE(sadly) but look at the bright side dear cause there are many people in this world that can FIND you attractive and can make you happy then it just grow there IF you let it happen. It also happen to me that missing a person so much means you have to be strong... But sad...i know it.

but if there is no more time you can't make him feel you love him then its unhealthy and so you have no more choice but to just move on.ACCEPT IT whole heartedly! IF he found out your not moving on well he might come back for you just let him know... he may feeling the same as you are right now. and maybe there is a good reason that this relationship has to end? We may forgot to be optimistic on these because your heart is really looking for some healthy relationship.

Sorry about the hurt you are going through. promise yourself to be strong. Know your decisions well before you do something. Best of luck dear.