Girlfriend broke up with me and itts evident she has started seeing someone else. I need help?

[GJA]

She broke up with me and blamed it on one silly Facebook conversation. Unbelievable. It want the cleanest brake up and I didn't handle it the best way either because I was I love with her and got scared of losing her. As she was the first girl I truely fell for I guess I tried a lot to get her back although she said I could have done more to get her back. What did she expect me to beg or something? I got flowers, wrote her a card telling her how I felt about her and talked to her to try and work things out. What I can't get over is how quickly she moved on. Within a couple of weeks already on dates and now seeing someone else and keeping it a secret. I held on to false hope that we could work it out. I need to accept its over and I've taken the following steps. I have removed her from Facebook, just deactivated twitter account, signed up to dating sites just recently. But even when I talk to other girls I still think about her and honestly just don't want any other girl. Is this normal? Now that she is seeing someone else so soon is there any chance we could get back together? She sent me a Christmas card and I sent one back. Feel a bit silly doing so now but wanted to be polite. Please give me some useful and friendly advice, I'm torn here and really hurt still when she has just so quickly moved on.

[luckibaby167]

i'm sorry your going through this, i know it is a very hard thing to do. i suggest taking some time to be single and just try to enjoy your life. dont go to dating sites and try to find someone else just yet..give yourself time to heal and adapt. i hope it all works out for you for the best.

[Elsewhere]

You already answered your own question, you need to accept that it's over and move on. Nobody claims this will happen overnight, and you aren't in competition with her to see who moves on first. You need to keep ignoring and avoiding her. Focus on other things and stay busy. Don't try to date yet, it's obvious you aren't ready and it's not fair to the new girls you meet. Your feelings for her will fade with time, but you have to make a concentrated effort to move forward and not dwell on the past.

[A Guy]

ummm that's how it is with girls always. Don't listen to the bullshit I need some time, I need to heal etc. NAH it's all a lie they move on quicker than guys. Don't let that bother you though that's the biggest reason they have so many problems in relationships because they are desperate. Relax, get over it do your thing and you'll find the right girl even if it will take you a year or longer but at least you got the right one.

[Sian]

Hi GJA
its perfectly normal to feel like you dont want to be with anyone else after you have been hurt in a break up. It takes time.
The fact that she is out there dating other people sadly suggests that her feelings for you were not as strong as yours for her. It happens, and its sad when someone gets hurt.
But its better to find out early that someone is not right for you than waste too much of your life trying to make something work when one person is not happy.
Every failed relationship is one step closer to the one that is right for you.
As for whether she will come back? Well i think it would be better for you if she doesnt, but dont sit in your room waiting, get out there and date other women. You might make some good new friends even if you dont meet 'the one' and anyway, it will cheer you up!

[Deb]

Sounds like she only has the friend thing on her mind with you now or she wouldnt have used a silly facebook convo to get out. Let her go, take back your dignity. Sometimes, as the old saying goes, You want more what you can't have....if you are suddenly standoff'ish she might start thinking, hmmm he doesn't care anymore. Now your suddenly more attractive to her in the, I want him sense. You might just have to "Let Her Go, If She Comes Back, She's Yours, If Not, It Wasn't Meant To Be."
Good Luck....She'd Be Lucky To Have A Guy Like You!!