How can I get out this abusive relationship?

[Shei]

I am an 18 year old female and my boyfriend is 27years old. when I met him he was 26 and I had just turned 18. We've been dating for a good 8 months now. Theres been red flags from the jump but i never left him. The first time we had sex he forced himself on me. Then the first time he hit me he was driveing and beat me really bad and pulled my hair out. Another time he broke my I-pod in the street and tossed my phone. He told me he would never hit me again but about 3 months later it started again. Hes choked me. Ive had 2 bloody eyes. He jit me so hard in my ear I couldnt hear out of it for a couple of days. We even lived togther and he kept kicking me out the house and I finally moved back in with my mom. He tells me how to dress, how to walk,and what to say. When I say something he tells me that Im dumb and dont know how to talk. He lashes out on me and calls me bitches, and hoes, and dumb broads. He says Its because I have an attitude and that its all my fault why I get hit. He deleted every dude off my facebook. He checks my email,facebook,twitter,and i-pod on a daily. When I get money he feels entitled to get some. He has me call him all the time when Im not with him so he can keep tabs on me. He doesnt let me go anywhere with my friends and not even to church with my friend. He says all I do is fuck up and no man is gonna want me for me they only gonna want me for sex. He also brings up the bible and says that women are suppose to be subbmissive and says I always have something to say and that I have to do whatever a man tells me to do cause I am under him. I try and try and try to leave him but either he comes chasing me or I come running back. I was never this kind of person before I met him, I have low self esteem now, Im very irratible, I get angry all the time. Hes always apologizeing but says the reason why he did it was because of my attitude. and when I start crying cause he hit me he tells me to shut up and if i dont he beats on me more. One day he pulled me and picked me up and dragged me by my hair and was hitting on me all day long then had me take off all my clothes and lay in the bed so that I couldnt run out the house! I love him but I know its not a healthy relationship. I have nowhere to turn and I feel like I need him and I feel like if I leave for good nobodys gonna want me and nobodys gonna treat me any better. Please help....

[Kristina]

you need to go and stay with your mom. does she know how bad he is beating you? if you feel you cant go to her find a Turning Point in your area they speacialize in resources for women in abusive relationships. Get a PFA and dont break it. You have to put your foot down now before its too late. Ive been through it. Its harder than hell but you will be a better stronger woman in the end.

[kekomi]

Hi dear!
Im really Heart broken to hear that a man can really be this hush to a person he claims to love. There is no love in your relationship all that is there is for your man to use you and sooner or later this man will ether kill you or dump you for another girl. You are supposed to be in love but you are in a prison. One Musician sang that its better to be hungry but free than to be a well fed slave. In your situation you are a slave to him because his interest in you is just to use you when he feels like.
Please i beg of your life get out that relationship and do not think that no man will ever look at you, you still have a lot of life ahead of you. You are beautiful and that is why your so called man is holding on to you coz while he does not care for you he is afraid of losing you because.. you are Beautifully made and cute.
Go and live with mum and do not fall into tricks of stopping to hit you because he will never stop hitting you because he is an abusive and uncaring bully who does not deserve to be with you.
May the almighty Jah be with you as you go with your life and may you find favor in his presence so that he blesses you with a better man who will care, love and appreciate you.
All the best!

[Your Captain]

that's so horrible, it's an awful situation for you to be in and you're right to want to save yourself. the relationship you are in is really typical of abusive relationships, he hurts you, he says he's sorry, he abuses you and tells you it's your fault and makes you think you're worthless and no one else will ever have you so you'll never leave him because bit by bit you believe the things he says and think that he's the best you can do.

if i were you i would organise a holiday, maybe see if a girlfriend or group of friends will come with you. if you don't have much money you can do it cheap, drive to a caravan park a few towns away and stay in a cabin there, it should be really cheap. or look on wotif.com, they have last minute accomodation cheap. the point is you need to be somewhere he can't find you and you need to be gone at least a week. like you said, when you've broken up with him in the past he's come after you or you've gone back to him, but not this time. get a new phone number and only give it to people you can trust won't give it to him, delete your facebook and make a new account that you don't have him on and that is set to private so he can't see anything on it and only add people who won't let him look at it through their facebook. you know if you go back he'll keep hurting you, no matter what he says or does it will never get better. he may stop for a week or a month but he.will.hurt.you.again. so don't let him talk you into it, cut him out of your life completely and make it impossible for him to call you or come see you and talk you into going back to him.

i think you should also write a list of the reasons your leaving him so if you're tempted to go back you can read them and remember why you need to leave. make a list of things for you to do while you're away, google interesting places you can go like the beach or bush walks or something else for where ever you choose to escap to. i also recommend you see a psychologist, someone who can help you find the strength inside yourself to leave this guy and also help you get your thoughts straight. you've been told for 8 months that you're no good and no one else will love you, you know that's not true but when someone you love says that to you it makes you wonder, so i think you should see a psychologist or at least go once and see if it helps you feel better about yourself again and helps you to find your strength again. you feel like no one will want you and you need him, but deep down you know that's not true, a psychologist can help you work through this and change the way you feel.

so basically- change your phone number and contact details, go away for a little while so he can't find you and you can get yourself together, distract yourself while you're away so you're not thinking about him, see a psychologist to help you stay strong in the long term and move past this guy. good luck, i hope you're able to save yourself

[Moondog]

The only help is for you to get away from this creep. Now!