Why is it that some modern women think they can go down on a woman and not be gay?

[Savvy Bulge]

Her name is Jen Friel. She openly posts an embellished biography of her life on the site below. She has acting training at Strasbourg and employment history in marketing and sales so you can't believe a word she says, but in this post she writes how she loves making out with women and went down on this one but doesn't feel at all sexual toward women. Gimme a break.

However I love how she's so confused and clueless about why she's still alone at 28 and what's wrong with her (she's obviously F'd in the head), feigning hours of crying, while hundreds of dorks email her about how great she is and it's everyone else in the world that's the problem, not her.

I only write rhetorical Qs on YA, btw.

Scroll to "We then get back to Stuarts place..."
http://www.talknerdytomelover.com/home/2...-cras.html

Theres another post somewhere says she watches girl-girl porn and had a 3-some but doesn't yet know if she's bisexual. Why can't her dad just tell her flatout that shes gay--help your daughter, man. Such confusion could carry on for decades. Maybe he's in denial too, hoping to one day have some gay grandchildren I guess. Or maybe he molested her--how can you engage in a random sexual experience (outside of prison) that you're indifferent toward. Signs of a risk seeking destructive personality. Just another example of the sad corruption of modern American wealth (her parents were social climbers working in insurance in Connecticut).
Sapien: I'm well aware of the distinction; however, this one also fantasizes same sex--thats beyond physically gay into psychologically gay. The only element that remains is an emotional attraction to another woman. It will eventually happen. And one of her future kids will prolly walk in on her to be shocked and appalled and scarred.

[× Ñ”Ñ•Ñ•Ñƒ ❤]

I know plenty of women who are heterosexual and wouldn't mind experimenting with other women. I know other women who simply do such things for attention from men - it works too.

Women in general are more open to homosexuality than men. If you didn't know already, many women spend their younger years experimenting with the opposite sex. Women's sexualities may undergo changes due to fluctuations in hormones caused by puberty and other factors. When I was merely 12 years old, I swore down that I was a lesbian. By age 16 I began to be attracted to men - bisexual.

Furthermore, some women are happy watching lesbian porn, which doesn't make them gay. The main reason many women like lesbian porn is due to the very fact that most lesbian porn contains real pleasure and emotions - normally. Heterosexual porn is either painful looking, disgusting or disturbing. Watching certain types of porn does not determine your sexuality. Moreover, many women engage in threesomes to please their boyfriends, not themselves.

[Fizz]

What sexuality a woman is or calls herself is no business of yours unless you are in a relationship with her.

[Beer]

I guess the media tells them that, so they just go along with it. In reality, it doesn't work that way.
All they need to do to realize how irrational such ideas are is to think about what would they themselves think of a guy who told them: yeah, I go around giving bl0wjobs to other men but I'm completely straight. They wouldn't take them seriously.
That's pretty much how sane people look at the reverse situation as well.

Besides, heterosexual men, in general, are open to bisexuality in women only if it involves casual flings. Very very few men, at least in my experience, would enter a serious relationship with women who are bisexual. Straight women usually reject bi men for both the flings and the longer term relationships.
They're all entitled to their preferences.


"What sexuality a woman is or calls herself is no business of yours unless you are in a relationship with her."

Agreed.
But it works both ways - I don't want to even listen about her sexuality and/or orientation. Stop abusing people with talk of "your" sexuality and/or orientation when they are not interested in it, and where it's not appropriate to talk about it - creating hostile environment for the rest of us.

[Granny Tea]

The norms of sexuality and how to label oneself in modern culture is in flux. There are still some people who fear ostracism if they admit they have homosexual or bisexual tendencies...no matter what their gender is.

[Emma]

Interesting question/story. I've never heard of this woman before being British, but I will search her now.

I am a hetrosexual female. I have kissed girls in clubs for example when I was in my late teens but this was more for fun and messing about, playing at being more liberal than I probably am than any actual sexual thrill. I would never have gone further, simply because while I think women are beautiful creatures and I can appreciate that beauty, I have never had a real sexual attraction to one.
However despite defining myself as straight, on the rare occasions I have ventured into the shadowy world of internet porn I tend to opt for girl-on-girl porn purely because I find the fakeness and complete disregard for what real women find pleasurable you see in straight porn utterly repelent and it leaves me cold. But as I said, lesbian action is simply a fantasy for me, not something I think I could go through in real life, and to do so should make one question their sexuality. But I don't think this means she has mental health problems, and 28 isn't an unacceptable age to still be single. No age is really.
Too much emphasis is placed on labelling ones sexuality, and this idea that to know your sexuality you have to rule everything out. I don't need to go down on a woman to know that I am hetro, or have anal to know I wouldn't enjoy it.

[alexes]

same reason some men say giving another guy a blowjob or handjob is not gay, but anal sex is.

[obedientstring761]

If she enjoys play time with men and women, she is bisexual. With being bi, a person may gravitate toward primarily one sex or another.

[HomoSapien]

"Why is it that some modern women think they can go down on a woman and not be gay?"

there can be a difference between 'homosexual behavior' and homosexual orientation and men exhibit this anomaly too.