I don't like how one sided dating is. I can't do it anymore, do I give up on dating girls?

[Mike]

For a guy dating is extremely one sided and goes to make it hard for a guy to keep and maintain his confidence. All these years I've been told that as a man you go for that girl, you face your fears and talk to her. but honestly how many nervous shy girls have wanted to talk to a guy soo bad that she faced that fear and aproached him. It's really tough and getting rejected is really embarrassing and picking yourself up after one and moving on is tough I know from personal experience. But for me that girl was important enough to risk all of that, but I've never seen the opposite.

It's VERY uncommon for a girl to directly tell a guy she finds him attractive. I don't even know what girls think about me honestly, I have no clue weather I'm attractive or not. All I have to go by is when I turn my head and maybe catch a girl staring at me on the train and quickly looks away. And that can mean anything. Or when a girl is slightly touchy touchy, I'm supposed to read those cues and go for it, and if I don't then oh well she isn't gonna do much else I'm not THAT important. This is the general impression I get with dating.

The way things are set up, a guy has to initiate the conversation and continue to show the girl interest by texting, asking her out, going in for the first kiss/sex. Yes girls will give signs and ques but it's rarly something completely direct and initiated.

But why? Why am I working so hard like some circus monkey. why have a mentality of "you have to work for sex, and work for me" as if it's a gift for us and a chore for them as if sex with us isn't a great thing, and with that impression in mind I'm still supposed to work hard to advance. It's feels hurtful honestly

I understand it's because a lot of girls have options while me as a guy, if I don't do some initiating I'm not getting anywhere, trust me being a virgin whose turning 21 on the 8th, I can tell you it doesn't just fall in your lap.

Okay so maybe I sound bad here but I just don't feel like playing this game anymore or playing this role that im forced into playing if I want female interaction. The conclusion I've come up with is just stepping back because these rules make me feel uncomfortable and unhappy honestly, but I feel miserable because it'd be nice to have something with a girl.

[kiro]

I know how you feel but life is full of challenges and you just have to live the way you want to

[Markey]

The women are so vain and have inflated egos, that they think they are doing you a favour by talking to you.

Maybe you are looking at the wrong girls? Try older women.... ;-))

[GoatMen]

You are a guy, its our destiny to be servants.

[savannah]

Sometimes you need to be the person to break the ice and tslk to the girl thats giving you the look or is giving you hints. Shy girls probley have the same thing you do, they're scared of rejection. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin and almost 21. Honestly, just stsy with me, If I was to be with you and we got married I'd be so happy your a virgin, not alot of ppl are these days. As of sex intirely, yes some females jump on it and some want to inch up to it slowly. Try to make some friends with females then see where it goes and then possibly date. For sex, please make the relationship before you have or try to have sex, you'll both feel better about it, trust me. If you'd like I could talk to you more about this so you can answer back . Im on facebook names savannah kremer, 17 years old almost 18(1 more month give a few days too lol), in texas have my profile picture from when i was 7 with my hair in a ponytail with a bunch of colors in it. Message or add me then Ill be sure to talk back

[Sunni]

This ain't 1950 anymore....do what everyone is doing....use the internet...im 34....when I was 21 I had to go to clubs to meet men....we didn't have Myspace,Facebook, Twitter...dating sites.....Thank God I reunited with an old friend through Myspace 5years ago now we are engaged and have a 2 year old so Im done dating but before the guy im with now...I met a few guys on the net and they were straight nerds in person but on the Web...they were the sh**......they had all kinds of women traveling to meet up with them.....the guy im with now...his brother is a lame....he claims to be a hardcore gang member but he's not...he said he doesn't like American women.....so he meets girls from Germany,Africa, etc a lot of them fly out here to see him...he sleeps with them a few times and then cheats on them or dogs them out and they fly back home thinking all Americans are pigs. I met some of these girls...they are really nice women. My point....you have options....I say travel...maybe the game playing is in your town...or maybe you attract a certain type....try something new....not all women are the same.