Why does he act this way when I am trying the best I can?

[Karen]

Alright, I feel like a dumb ass for asking in the first place, but I'd like some opinions. My boyfriend 'Mark' and I have been dating for about two months now. We met through a friend, immediately liked each other, started dating. A week into the relationship, he tells me he love me, the next day told me he can't go through with this because he was still in love with his ex. I was really confused, because telling me you 'love me' -which no reasonable person would have believed after one week, I mean, really, how old are you?- and then telling me he love his ex is just ridiculous. So two days go by, then he comes back and asks for my forgiveness and that he made such a mistake. Me, being way too forgiving and hoping people can change, take him back. Things roll along smoothly for a few weeks. Let me take this moment to add that since Mark and I met, he has been very generous about paying for me, picking me up -I live twenty five minutes from him, some have found it a hassle-, saying nice things to me, making me feel special, calling me several times a day, texting, etc, etc. Well all of a sudden, these things just stop. He starts being 'busy' with his job and friends, and when I did ask to see him, he always wanted me to come to him. I am not a demanding, clingy or whiney girlfriend. I try very hard not to complain about miniscule things around them, I don't nag, I don't care if they see their friends a lot, if they watch football when I'm over, whatever. I don't ask for much, so I know that this was nothing I did. I bend over backwards to make my men happy. Anyway, every time I wanted to see him, he would say he was free and then never would call me back and then would announce on Twitter or Facebook what he was doing. So I was confused by this and felt like a very low priority. I tried to talk to him about it, and he said he was just 'really busy' these days and 'should have talked to me more', but does he? No, he does everything the same. Three days later, he cancels plans with me again because it was 'a huge inconvenience' to drive to pick me up. So I am fed up by this point, and tell him exactly why I am ending it in clear concise terms and that I was sorry. I did this in a text message because I was afraid if I called him I would break down and give in. Well he doesn't even seem to realize I'm dumping him. He lets it go, and then about fourteen hours later says he 'didn't want this'. I repeat the reasons. He wants to meet the next day to 'talk about things' because 'he loves me and I am worth fighting for'. I agree, and he explains that he was genuinely busy and he got jealous over a male friend and I playing music together and felt like I didn't care and was losing interest. Number one I told him about it, number two, he has a girlfriend, and number three, he should have told me he was jealous. Also, I have sent countless text messages to him saying sweet things, have been affectionate, and affirming. So how he could possibly feel uncared about, I don't know. Well I thought about it and said we could give it another go, but he would have to try and put effort in. We have been together a week, I have seen him three times, because I have driven to HIM. I also discovered he has been talking to his ex and hid it from me. I am not a jealous person, but when you purposely keep information from me and then tell me to 'just trust you', what am I supposed to think?

So, my question is, what is his problem? Why is he doing this? I am trying my best to be as good as possible to him, but he is just not doing his part at all. Even when I communicate it to him. AM I being too nice, does he think he can take advantage of me? I am going to break up with him, I already have given him too many chances, I just want to know why he is doing this.
In reply to the bending over forwards: that's not an issue, our sex life is great haha.
He is twenty three.

[Demi]

You're being too nice and he doesn't deserve you. Tell him its over and that's that. If he cared, he wouldn't have been so distant.

[chalaleah]

maybe instead of bending over backwards, you should start bending over forwards

[Kiba]

My best friend went through this same thing, her bf would be there for her every second at first then later on in the relationship he acted as if he was bored with her not texting bk, he stopped calling everynight and everything. Reason was (she found out from his friend) he had gone bk to his ex and yes he was cheating. She asked him about it and he shed some tears and promised never to do it again becuase his true 'love' is my best friend. She forgave him because he easily shed tears and made it seem as if he was trully hurt. I told her to dump him and she did not listen. Turns out a month later, one of my friends who know him tell me hes going out with some other girl. (WTF right) so ya as i was correct at first. When someone cheats, they never go back. Most people love secrets and when your doing things in secret its a rush. Ya i got her to dump him right there. Do not listen to men when they say they will change because people rarely change. Also a fact, if ur bf keeps worrying about YOU cheating and is constantly askin about some guy friends of urs and hinting at that its because they themselves are cheating and are now paranoid about everyone else.

[nvrtimeme]

How old is he? If he's lying to you now then he has no respect for you. He's probably done more than talk to his ex...maybe he's been hooking up with her and you both. Sounds like a douche.