where do i fit in?how to not kill yourself if you cant take being a loner?

[Molly]

https://twitter.com/molly31292446

im 23,i used to work in a deli, but it was to stressful for me.part of me lives in another land and thinks im a star.and the real me is canned/i have no friends so i feel like i cant support myself enough to work in public,or talk. how can you get help for agoraphobia/social anxs when you are cautious/nervous ?

[Deven]

U can use some social networking sites or something or try to meet new people , have fun , life's only once

[Timo]

If you are really suicidal, then leave. you can travel, do anything.

Go be James Bond. help people, learn about the world.
After doing this, not only would you of met people who you relate to, but respect you. Then you may not feel this way.
Get away from whats holding you back and those nerves will go. travel my friend, be Gandalf.

[hope]

ahah aww thats y i dont use social sites because im not social. im sorry but i am a loner with social problems as well! your not the only one going through this

[A]

Ironically when you feel alone and that you're the outsider that doesn't fit in and nobody else feels awkward/misunderstood you actually have more in common with everyone else than you could possibly know.
First of all don't fight yourself; try new things and put yourself in social situations that would make you nervous and embrace that feeling which would normally stop you doing so until it that feeling is associated positively rather than negatively.
Other than that, there are therapies such as hypnotherapy and herbal aids such as 'rescue remedy' which may help on the side.

[Rachel]

The most widely used intervention for any type of irrational fear is exposure. That doesn't mean that you have to go from wanting to be home and not seeing anybody to a big party or public speaking. It means that you dip your feet in the water. Picture yourself doing those things, fantasize about it a lot in a positive way, meeting and talking with people over the internet is a great next step forward, going out of your house to the mall (or some place with a lot of people), try group dating, then a one-on-one situation, just keep making yourself move further and further outside your comfort zone.

As for work, my dad spent his whole life being unable to socialize with others. My mom applied for a contract to deliver mail. He was out by himself (not working WITH other people) and had little interaction with people on his mail route (so he didn't have to talk with customers much either). There are jobs that require very little interaction with humans, something on the computer maybe.

[Ms. Lady]

You need to find out what is causing you to feel this way and know that everyone is not out to judge you. I would consult a therapist and see if that will help. I think the key thing for you is to find alternative solutions to issues most people would deal with through their social contacts, you have to use your intelligence to implement your values. If you think you would succeed at something, don't be discouraged It's good to seek chances, but don't get fixated on the immediate benefits. Consider the effects on the rest of your life and make choices that will benefit you in the long run. Make it a habit to get up and out of the door and do things that you enjoy that the best advice that I can give you.
Best Wishes!!

[btw]

Awww...you're a pretty woman so I am sure you can have many friends, boyfriends and a normal life. Being a "star" or celebrity is a little bit more difficult because most actors have to have acting training before people take them seriously. You could try to take some acting classes if you have enough time for it, however, and see where you can go from there.