What to do about my boyfriend?

[heyitstay]

My boyfriend has been talking to this girl whose father just passed away and she is now in a girl's home. She started texting him saying that she just needed someone to talk to. Well, I thought this was completely okay, considering the circumstances, I told him that I did not mind that he would talk to her. But she has been talking to him just as much as I have recently and she keeps asking him when he's going to be done talking to me so he can call her... I understand that she needs someone to talk to, so, again, I overlooked it. But now she is talking to him on facebook, liking all of his stuff on facebook, and she made a twitter so she could talk to him on it. I'm not mad I just don't want him to slip away. What should I do?

[Marinie Sydney]

When she needed someone, he was there. Now she's caught feelings. There's not much you can do but talk to him, just be honest and don't try to control him.

[JL]

I would tell him it's decision time for him, since this is going far beyond her needing someone to talk to. He's not a counselor.

[Poppet]

You should talk to your BF and assess his feelings on her apparent over attachment. There is a very good chance she is emotionally attaching herself to him and he may be blind to it.

[Girish Mehta]

My dear friend,request her that she can talk to you instead of him.Anyhow she wants somebody to talk to.So she can talk to you

[JennyCide]

She's definitely hot for him. It's absolutely not OK that he talks to her so often. You need to mention to him that the constant contact with her makes you uncomfortable. Something similar happened with my boyfriend recently and I sent him this text:

"Hey, I noticed that [insert girl's name] keeps flirting with you on Facebook, and that makes me uncomfortable. I trust you, but this isn't a trust thing, it's a respect thing - I feel disrespected by her doing this all the time, and where everyone can see."

He told the girl to knock it off, and everything turned out fine; it turns out, he couldn't tell she was flirting with him! Guys can be daft sometimes. I suggest telling him something similar to what I told my boyfriend - just be sure to be very non-confrontational about it. No need for Jerry Springer sh*t! (Though I certainly wanted to go Jerry Springer on that girl, ha.)

[Rachel]

I understand your view as well as your bf. it must be very disturbing for her to be in a girls home. Is there any reason you can't text her as well?(that would be a two fold solution.). Or maybe now that she's on FB, she will branch out and make new friends. Also, maybe she needs time to make friends at the girls home. Your bf means well and you should appreciate his kindness. If you perceive it as anything more than that, or she's becoming too intrusive in your relationship, you have to tell your bf this politely, and when you and him are together perhaps he can shut his cell phone. I'm sure she feels comforted by him and in time will make friends, in addition to head masters that she can speak too. Good luck

[Brian]

tell him how you feel, without making him feel like you're controlling him.
she does seem to like him. hopefully he does not like her in return
if he cares about you enough, he will adequately tone down the frequency of communication with her

[Kay]

Unless he is a highly qualified therapist, she needs to find someone else to talk to. Did he know her before her father passed away, because it's kinda weird if he's just talking to a random girl. I'm not trying to worry you but I know alot of guys who tell a girl she can talk to him when she needs someone just so he can flirt.