I don't understand?

[Ambie]

Look before you read this please don't bash on me, I am just confused. Alright it all started a year and a half ago we were both 19 my now fiancé and I got engaged after 5 months, it was out of the blue I never thought he would propose especially i wasn't thinking of rushing anything. So rewind those whole 5 months were great he was so sweet and caring would pay for everything text me all the time be a great boyfriend. We lived together for 3 months in an apartment then moved in with his parents. He was always a cigarette smoker but more an more he started smoking pot and then spice. I've supported him in everything he does, he didn't want me hanging out with certain friends and going to my work, etc. in may of this year he ended up getting kicked out of his house (i stayed with a friend so did he) and he asked for money since his parents took his, I felt guilty so I gave him money, he spent that money on alcohol and trying to get into a club. I still gave in and stayed with him we both went back to his parents and one day he got mad at me over a twitter account on my phone so he tried breaking my phone, I tried leaving that night but he tried to flatten my tires and he wouldn't let me call anyone, 2 days after that I left for 2 months to live with family. A month into me moving he begged me to come back. So I did a month later and he made so many promises he'd change and what not and now I've been back for 4 months and nothing has changed, he's gotten angrier and more addicted to smoking. He's supposed to be training for baseball and I try to help him but he still smokes. He gets mad on a daily basis, he will go to bed pissed off and wake up telling me I'm annoying and to get away from him. The other day he left me at home while he went to his parents and to bat for baseball (we usually go everywhere together). That day I spent the whole day cleaning and didn't eat lunch, while he went out got lunch hung out with his parents and then trained. I don't understand

[Softtouchmale]

I do. He takes you for granted and you let him.

There, its a simple answer but fits what you just described.

[Mz Benz]

First don't allow him to treat u like this.. U say u love him but do u love urself ?? U have to love u first.. Before ur able to love someone.. I say tgat cause u put up with his mess.. Of course he is not going to change.. Making promises he has no intentions on keeping.. Before u know it ur going to been done lost urself within him.. Meaning u will give him so much of u until u have nothing to give urself.. Love is blind love is crazy.. At times love does hurt but when a person loves u they make change for u.. Not get worst.. Smoking weed ok not so bad but spice oh no that spice is on another level.. Drinking really it only gets worst.. I would see if he changed a little or at least working on change but he is not.. Your going to have to weigh ur options.. Do u keep allowing him to treat u like this ??? Do u walk away ??? Do u allow love that at times be blind lead u in hopes he will change ?? Take it from me I was with a dude 7 years.. He beat the dog crap out of me.. Almost everyday I went through so much with him.. I wore a size 3 didn't eat couldn't eat just lost.. I stayes thinking he would change do me better.. I almost lost my kids and everything.. Now I an writing a book titled By Any Means.. Meaning By Any Means I would have gave anything just for his love support his loyalty.. I would have killed anyone that got in my way of been with him.. I loved him so much I forgot to love myself.. And that is possible.. I gave so much of me.. When we finally left one another I had to rebuild myself from the lowest point and only I was to blame.. I could not blame anyone else not even him.. I was a damn fool that was so in LOVE.. Don't fool urself

[Zoe]

1) He's a jerk and you deserve better. Leave him.

2) He's abusing you with words, which will probably turn into psychical abuse. Don't make excuses for him, that it one of the signs that someone is an abuse victim. It happened to my sister, and it is still happening. He's obviously not a person of his word, and you sound like such a loyal person. You need someone who will be just as loyal to you. "...he made so many promises he'd change and what not and now I've been back for 4 months and nothing has changed,"

3) Addictive attitudes can lead to a lot worse.

4) If he is doing things to keep you to stay that are out of the norm from when you first met, then that is a really dangerous sign. "....he tried breaking my phone, I tried leaving that night but he tried to flatten my tires and he wouldn't let me call anyone."

5) Get away and fast. A restraining order would be good to. Not to mention some self defense classes. Sometimes guys like him will go nuts and come after you. Don't tell him you're leaving, just leave. He will try and stop you and it probably won't be pretty. Don't make excuses for him. Don't do anything but help yourself. You have been selfless enough. Arrange to stay with family. Pack your bags, and go.