Would you say my girlfriend is controlling?

[Kevin]

okay. here's the deal. I'm 15. me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months. we have a pretty great relationship. we rarely are ever mad at each other, and we always have amazing conversations. but, I think she might be a little controlling. she always tells me I'm trying to control her life and gets really defensive if I ask her if she is texting anybody else, because when she responds late she usually is. which isn't a big deal at all. but look at what she does: I can't talk to girls, look at girls, follow a good looking girl celebrity on twitter, have any girl contacts, have any friends that are girls, and even talk about other girls. I let her do everything. I let her talk to guys, have guy friends, let her text other guys, let her talk about other guys, let her have a celebrity crush. but she doesn't let me do anything. I talked to a friend of mine and he said she is probably looking for some sort of attention that I'm not giving her. we talk every minute of the day, besides school and while we're asleep. I'm 99.9% sure she isn't cheating on me just because I don't think she is that type of person. I really do love her and don't plan on breaking up with her, but every time I try to talk about this she doesn't talk about it and changes the subject. she already told me she doesn't trust me when it comes to other girls. I understand it's normal to be jealous, but to go this far I think is pretty ridiculous. she tells me she hates the relationship just because I ask who she is texting. and it's normally just a girl friend of hers. I just don't understand. why doesn't she trust me? she's my 2nd girlfriend and I would never ever cheat on a girl. I think it's the worst thing you could put someone through emotionally, besides death. I get bullied at school anyway so I wouldn't have a lot of girl friends at all. I had one but my girlfriend made me stop talking to her. my girlfriend even got mad at me for talking to my GIRL RELATIVES! isn't that insane?

[Beach Bum]

You need to start acting as ridiculous as her.

Let her know that you expect equal treatment or else you will not treat her like an equal.

It took me a while to realize why hanging out with my guy friends would make my boyfriend jealous - I honestly had to reverse the situation. I would hate it if he hung out with a bunch of girls without me. When my guy friends protested, I asked them if they would like their girlfriends' hanging with a bunch of guys they didn't know. Every guy then respected my decision to remain friendly, but not hang out with them like I use to.

You have to make her listen. How will your relationship last if you can't communicate with her?