Should this be an legitimate reason to be afraid to come out?

[Robin]

As you might have already guessed, I'm pansexual. Well, maybe that wasn't your exact guess, but close enough.

So here's the deal. I'm pretty open about it, online (facebook, twitter, etc etc) and with friends and classmates. I don't care weather they accept me or not. (It's a surprise family HASNT found out)

But I might as well be straight to family members. For a few reasons, and one MAIN one to be exact.

My main reasoning for being in the closet towards family members is this: more and more people are claiming to be gay/bisexual.Such as Katy Perry, Nikki Minage, P!nk, and Lady Gaga (I think) and that is causing people (girls intact) to be claiming 'bisexual'
I mean no disrespect, they might be true to their feelings. That they are their sexuality. But also what I see a lot of is, people claiming to being homosexual and then turning out wrong.

I'm not afraid to be disowned, or yelled at, taken to a church, whatever. What WILL make my blood boil is the simple words "Just a phase"

And yes I know, I have thought over the fact it might be just a phase. The odds are really unlikely. I've been attracted to people for I'd say 3 years maybe. I know that doesn't sound like a lot of time, but I was questioning for a number of years beforehand. Even as a young child I'd develop crushes on girls AND guys and I thought I was strange. I didn't know what to think.

The thoughts of coming out to family occur a lot, but at the same time I'm afraid to. I know which and what family members will say, and I'm not ready to hear that. I'll never be ready, I have a cool almost non existent temper (and though I'm just a teenager) I keep my respect towards adults and elders. I'm afraid what I'll hear from some will set me off, go on a rampage. I'm angry for them not to be open minded.

I do not wish to come out to the. Considering the fact I'm a teenager, I have been out long, and the reasoning more and more people are becoming bisexual.

When I tell people this, they say something along the lines of "What! That's your only reasoning? You should tell them, they should accept you"

Does this seem like a good reasoning to stay 'in the closet' or am I just trying to find reasons otherwise? Opinions?

[Crystal Rayne]

No matter what your reason is, your feelings are valid. If you aren't comfortable with coming out, you shouldn't feel forced. You say that you'll never be ready to come out, so you should know that's an option as well. You don't have to come out at all, because who you find attractive is your business. The only problem there is if you find somebody of the same sex or transgender or whatnot to be your significant other. Then you'll have to make the decision and discuss that with your partner. In any case, don't feel forced. Of course anxious feelings and uncertainty are normal when it comes to this kind of thing, but you need to find out what works best for you. I don't think your reason for being in the closet is stupid. I know that the whole, "it's just a phase" is irritating, but you have to accept that they may say that. You have to decide if it's worth it. Can you accept that that may be their views? I think that as long as you know in your heart what your sexuality is, it doesn't matter. You have to learn to let it slide, and just know that it's because they'll be in denial.

Give yourself time, and when/if you tell them, you must give them time as well. I hope this is helpful and I hope you decide what's right for you.