Does my Parent/Gaurdian have the right to make me?

[liyah]

I'm 17 and earn my own money, and I buy my own things, therefore most of what I own is mine, (iPod, camera, clothes, shoes, purses, makeup etc.)

Long Story Short: I live with my mom, but we live with our grandma, temperarilly just untill we get back onto our feet. I reciently got into an argument with my mother, which soon led to a punishment/ grounding. Therefore, I began to keep distant from family members and talk only when necissary (to keep me from getting in any more trouble) This led my family to believe I was being rude and disrepectful so I soon wrote a letter expressing my feelings (in a polite formal mannor) and they took that the wrong way. I explained the character trait "introvert" and how i choose to only talk when nessicarry because i feel its irrelevant to tell "higher authority" often times when I do express my feelings and or thoughts to higher authority, because they exclude the meaning of my beliefs, or opinions,and it reflects in a negative way and i feel I am wasting my breath conversation to higher authority, because they automatically form their own assumptions and/or opinions leaving me no room to explain my situation. So why bother? And as "higher authority" i am reffering to my mother. Because of this, my mother saw this as being rude to the family and wanted me to interact more, so she took my ipod (which is my life/computer) away, and told me i would get it back within the next 2 weeks. I found a way to work around the punishment, and decided to watch t.v. instead (which i never do), (she never mentioned not watching tv) when my mother saw me avoid her previous punishment, she decided to prohibbit me from watching T.V. That being said, i found a way to entertain myself by (fixing my broken laptop) and getting on the internet and satisfying my needs (facebook, twitter youtube etc.) She saw a form of bliss and decided to put restrictions on my internet usage (only because i have to use my laptop for school) and decided i can only use it if its out in the open, on the kitchen counter (where everyone gathers,) (but i want to be left alone, and excluded) do you see the pattern? everytime she sees me content with her punishment, she decides to put restictions on me even more. but she never did mention how i couldnt do the previous thing (she just assumed that i wouldnt/couldnt) but i never really took this spesific laptop punishment into consideration. I then decide to hang out at my friends house for an extended amount of time, (since i have nothing to do at home) and she decides to put a restraign on that as well!! Im soon going to go CRAZY!

\Now here comes my grandma (gma for short) seeing as though my mom wasnt so tough on the "laptop in kitchen" rule I didnt bother following it, so now my gma comes in and asks if i am supposed to use it. I tell her i can, because its school oreanted (and it was). then she goes and tattle tells to my mom that i wasnt following the rules which makes my mom enforce them even more. now everytime my grandmother sees a sort of entertainment, she asks if im aloud to have it then consults with my mom about it! HOW IRRITATING! is it acceptable that my parents/guardian take away the things I purchased myself. Like, do they have a right as a parent to take an item(s) away if I PAYED FOR IT MYSELF and tell me when or where to use them? I mean if im following the rules and find another sorce of entertainment are they alloud to change the rules? I DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG! I know I shouldn't be stuck in materialistic things, I was just wondering f it is alloud. And if not, do I have a good argument? Thanks!!


P.S. Sorry for all the gramatical errors i was typing fast because i wanted to post this as soon as posible.
Feedback Please? and if yes, why so?

[Chris]

yes

[Kol Kol]

Actually no. They have no right to take things away, that they never purchased. Its considered stealing. Tell them to their face how you feel and everything, not in a letter! Find a apartment that's in your price range, pack up your things, and get some furniture. Then if they don't respond favorably, tell them your moving out and want your stuff back at the end of the week or else your calling the police on them for stealing. Your old enough to be on your own and they have to deal with it.

[Ballet Stevenson]

well i understand that you'd be mad they took away something of yours that you paid for yourself. However, you are not paying for the roof you are living in, and you are not paying for the food they are feeding you.

The way you are behaving seems very childish and you seem to have that "smart alec" kid attitude going on that you think you know better and are better than your family.

It seems like you are being passive aggressive and causing problems indirectly. I think you should try to respect your mom and grandma and be more humble of a person. I'm sure your mom will just give you your things back once she sees you are making an effort to be respectful towards her and the family. Also since you're living at your grandmas and behaving this way, I bet the family is gossiping about you being childish and telling your mom she hasnt disciplined your properly. Don' you want your family to like you?

[theone]

yes

it is her rules

you are her child

she is allowed to punish you like that

punishment is suppose to be inconvenient

as far as having the computer in the kitchen and out in the open

i agree that is a good idea

i know what my husbands children do when they are not being watched - 15, 17 an 18 year old girls

peace

[Daan]

Yes, if you did anything wrong, but you didn't. Your mom punished you just because you're an introvert and introversion is a perfectly normal personality trait. People (including your mom) should respect something that is normal! Discriminating people by their traits is the same as being racist!

You're seventeen, right? According to the law, is an eighteen-year-old mature enough to live by his/her own? IF yes, be patient. If not, you must convince those two HAGS that introversion is a perfectly normal thing.

I'm sorry to be rude, but they punish you just because you're an introvert!