whats happening in my marriage?

[Ayesha Blue]

My 32 year old husband is in the public eye and was known to be a womanizer, and a jerk who sexually harassed women who rejected him or cheated on him.

i have lot of proof and evidence about his cheating and i have seen it with my own eyes,heard with my own ears(he said himself on radio about his close friend,as that she sleeps around,cuddling girl,kissing girl on her head etc) so i know that he cheats but i also want to know one thing
He knows he cheats but why does he need to prove that hes a family man on twitter or in public,saying how much time is needed with family so hes taking a 2 week break from work ,family vacation,watching TV with me ,kissing me in the crowds when he can otherwise he doesn't.
He even wrote happy birthday to me on his twitter account on 11th when we were switching between airports and planes going to Hawaii for vacation.I mean why are you writing it on twitter when we are together?/
but oddly enough, he didn't mention that it was my birthday on 10th while he bragged that we were going on a family vacation and our daughter got her passport.On the flight he was sitting with our daughter,kissing her on her cheeks and asking me to take pictures of it.

He takes his own pictures but not with me.Its only when people notice me and ask me to come over for a couple picture.He also doesn't hold me by the waist.When he does so with other women.
I also go to watch him perform at,sometimes i leave my daughter at home,its my husband who wants our daughter to come with me to see him.

he wanted a child as quickly as possible before he got married.and had already thought of baby names including selecting a name for a girl child and we met somewhere in a bar claiming love at first sight & just before marriage he tattooed my name on his arm but continued cheating,shows my daughter's name proudly which he has etched on his arm,but left out mine.
He loves his daughter a lot even though he stays out of home a lot due to his job.

I don't stay at home much and i stay out with my girlfriends taking our pictures though i have recently started a makeup artist business,doing makeup for my friends,people.

it wont hurt his career if he leaves me and neither he does anything to make me happy.its all in the public and the public needs to know that hes a devoted family guy.
Even vacations and holidays will be made public via twitter.

The entire focus is on his daughter,whether we are at the pool,or on vacation,he will always have the daughter in his arms,he is absolutely glowing when hes with her..my daughter also loves him dearly,giving him chains saying i love you daddy,nothing
and judging by the women he has hooked up,all younger than him,petite ,mostly blondes and pretty(while he is very tall,brunette,32 but all these girls are a lot younger than him) will he leave once he finds a girl,who he loves??

Another thing that recently surfaced is that he is the father of a n illegitimate child.rumors say that he has a 22 yr old mistress who is expecting a son from him,that is why people said that he was looking up names for a boy on twitter,but when he was indirectly asked by a guy who said there are rumors that he wants another child, he said he would love a son,more another daughter but unfortunately not true

this week it was the biggest function of his company and his birthday as well,i always went with him but this time he didn't take me.he went alone and attended all the parties and functions.and looked quite happy,smiling and very cheerful.I saw the pictures and his eyes were literally sparkling without me!
why???
what was his purpose of marriage??? for baby??and he stays??
please read carefully then answer.as many people misunderstand and say things which are not.

married to get a baby?? and stays as he stays out of home a lot due to his job and cant take care of his daughter?-daughter is very close to him
just attraction and since i was the only one putting up with him,as others rejected him,he married me?

[Frosty]

why u repeating ur question again and again

[Min]

Why are you still with this man who is causing so much angst? Get away from him with your daughter and start a new life, you deserve better. His lack of consideration, communication is abhorrent. He's treating you & your daughter as possessions when it suits him, then ignores you all together.

[Coach Simon]

He sounds rather shallow and insincere, doesn't he: more interested in his public image than his family. Or only interested in his family in order to help his career. He is getting away with cheating on you, so what's to stop him continuing? Clearly he has no respect for you, his daughter, the institution of marriage or the promises he made to you when you wed. Why do you stay with him? Normally I'd urge you to work hard on your marriage for her sake, but I don't feel that this would have much effect, or even be in her interests. She must be forming a very jaundiced view of how the roles of a husband and a wife should be. Pity you don't give her age, but I'll assume she is quite young still.

If you really want to try to save this marriage, I suggest you both read Dr Phil McGraw's excellent book, Relationship Rescue. (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). As he says in the book, it’s not only for people whose relationships are in trouble.

Email me if you would like to.

[Mike]

Divorce the man and give us a break.

[Manoj]

Girl @ Everyone of us has some bad things and some good things... What a life partner should looked into is just good things.... Bad things, ruin our life.... because these are the kind of things which cannot be sorted out... I know, many people here will suggest you to break-up with this jerk... but after break-up they will never tell you what to do next... Becoz there is no "next"... No Love, No peace of mind, nothing... believe me, you will not have anything afterthat... May be your mother, father, brother, sister, friends, sons or everyone will say just one thing.. "break-up with that jerk"... but that jerk is in love with you... If he is a womenized than take the initiative to sorted-out these things... Catch him when he is doing those wrong things and let him know that how much painful it's for you... Nothing is more painful than emotional torture for a man... Let him think that how much you feel for him in deep inside.. Love him more than other womens and show him how much you love him... Realize him that it's so much painful for you too see him with other womens but you still love him because he is the one for you! Show him that he is so much wrong but you still love him... I truly believe that one day he will understand all these things and realize that he was totally wrong in his part...

Also, you should see his best things -

1) He is a womenizer but love you and stay with you always

2) He is jerk but he is taking all the responsibilities... He is taking care of baby... He could not be a honest husband but he is a honest dad! What a girl want?

3) He is with you... Nothing go with you after death... It's just relationship which goes with you in heaven or hell... you decide what you want to do now...