How Do I Get My Friend Back?

[Michael H.]

I'm a guy(if you couldnt already tell). My closest female friend and I had a bit of a falling out. Things have been going downhill since early December and since then it's been rough. Before, it was great. But a series of things happened that strained the friendship. I came out to her about my very strong feelings for her. I told her recently that I loved her. She's told me that she's attracted to me, and that my feelings aren't completely one way.. but she has a boyfriend. Had. Her and I got into an argument the other night over some stupid stuff.. shortly after, her boyfriend(who's a year older and at college, we're high school seniors) tweeted at me, antagonizing me. So, while not thinking the best admittedly, angry both at her from the argument, and him for being with the girl I care about so much, I sent him a picture of a text she had sent me telling me she was attracted to me, that she wanted to basically hook up with me, with a description saying "You can have her, I'm done". They broke up the next day. Since then she's barely talked to me.. She deleted me as a friend and later blocked me on facebook, unfollowed me on twitter, instagram, hasn't responded to my calls, has made almost no contact with me at school(although i've caught her looking at me a few times, has apparently been talking to some people about me, and i've talked to her.. without hearing much back), and has barely responded to my texts. It happened 4 nights ago. I've been apologizing ever since, or at least trying to. Pleading with her, dignity aside, for our friendship. I love her, at the very least as a friend. There's a good chance we'll be going to the same college but it's not a sure thing, and I want to reconcile now. We have 5 months left of high school, then 2 months of summer before college. One of the few texts she did send me, she said she doesn't blame me for breaking them up and doesn't want me to think she does. I asked if she thought they would get back together. She replied, "None of your business." and hasn't replied since. The issue prior to their breakup was me talking to one of her friends, also a friend of mine, about her boyfriend. Things like, he's not good enough for her. She's making a stupid decision.. that friend was telling her these things, showing these texts to her. She showed some of my texts to her boyfriend. Obviously not the one i showed him, but very personal ones. About my feelings for her and such.. He doesn't exactly care for me, has always been pretty jealous. Anyways I just really, really need to know what I have to do to get her to be my friend again. Whatever I have to do. I'll do anything. Buy her flowers, do something special, act a certain way, say something, don't say something, give her space(just not for too long)... I'm hoping someone has been through a similar situation. Please don't tell me to just give up, or to move on, or to walk away, because I won't and I can't. I need her back.. at least as a friend again. I miss her so much.

[Jenna]

You can tell in her in person that your really sorry and you were stupid to do such thing and didn't realize it hurt her and ask if they can just be friends and say you'd didn't want to ruin there friendship

[mihir]

Wait a week. Give up for a week. Then come back, don't mention what happened unless she does. If she does, LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS... you are in the wrong here, and she has every right to be pissed. Don't even try to defend yourself. Don't do flowers that's pretty cheesy. A week of waiting time, then a long period of listening time, don't mention your relationship unless she asks, and if she does, say just friends.

[Babe on a budget]

Listen, if you really want her back, don't give up. And let her know you wont give up. Let her know willing to fight to regain what you had. You did a really messed up thing but shes not innocent either and hopefully shell realize that soon. You need a really huge gesture. Think of what she loves and work from there. Good luck.