PLEASE HELP! How do I convince my parents to permanently straighten my hair?

[Marnie]

Im 13 and I have natrually curly hair, not perfect curly like people on tv, my hair is REALLY poofy and frizzy at the front! I straighten my hair almost everyday, and im worried about damaging it! Heaps of people I hang out with always say things to me like "omg i love your hair" or "ahh, your hair is just so amazing and straight!", but thats cauz i always straighten it and they dont know what my natural hair is! I dont want to go swimming when im invited to the beach, because im embarresed about my curly hair and i dont want it to dry and go curly. I REALLYYY want to get it permanently straightened, I know what treatment to get and everything! I've done sooo much research but my parents just dont understand! They always say the same thing "your too young, its too damaging for your hair" and tell me I can get it when im 15 (2 years), but thats too long! How am i meant to avoid going to the beach for 2 years!? And whats the difference about my hair when im 13, and when im 15, its still the same hair! Anyway, does anyone know what I should say to them to help me convince them? I reallyyy want it to be done and I would really appreciate if someone helps meee! Dont bother commenting anything like "ermegherddd dont get it done your lucky you have curly hair" because you dont understand what its like! Im getting really stressed out its the only thing i want right now but i dont know what else to say to convince them :'( PLEASE HELP MEEEE! <3 <3 :'(

[Ungratefulpark369]

there is no permanent way, and its expensive to buy or go to salons for good products. its free if u do it yourself, many people with curly hair hate it, sorry its a part of life

[WEWBWB]

your hair is most likely already damaged from the heat.

Also, if you learn how to take care of your natural hair properly, It should not be frizzy.

http://www.naturallycurly.com

[Sur La Mer]

Parents sometimes KNOWS BEST, but listen to me, I don't even approve of them, and have been warning people since 2009 about the dangers of HEAT & CHEMICALS - hair's worst enemies.
They're not permanent, that's $300 - $800 each time you get them done. One I responded, she had hers done in March and that was May when she posted it? It is a billion dollar business, and they do not give money back guarantee for damaged hair or hair loss due to 'abuse', in this case, cancer.
Hair straighteners are known as hair relaxers, keratin treatments and hair-smoothing products. They work by breaking and reforming the chemical bonds in keratin, which is the main protein that gives shape to each hair.

> > > > BRAZILIAN BLOWOUT HAD BEEN BANNED by the Food & Drug Adm. Sept. 12, 2011.

Google: keratin treatment warnings. About 2,620,000 results (0.36 seconds) 6-24-12.
 1-23-12. and Google: Lawsuits Brazilian Blowouts. About 1,010,000 results (0.24 seconds) 
In Sept. the federal government put out a hazard alert about the hair-smoothing treatment, Brazilian Blowout etc. warning that it contains liquid formaldehyde that can turn into formaldehyde gas when heated during a treatment. Now, the company's bottles of solution carry a warning label to alert stylists to the potential formaldehyde risk and the need to perform the treatment in a well-ventilated area. The manufacturer said Monday (3-6-12) that it had agreed to settle a class-action lawsuit for about $4.5 million.

The FDA has previously received complaints that the products cause adverse reactions, including nervous system problems such as headaches, respiratory tract problems, nausea, chest pain, vomiting and rashes.
12-12-12

Hair-straightening products are allowed to contain small concentrations of formaldehyde (0.2 percent). But several hair-straightening solutions have been found to contain well above the allowable limit. For example, one popular hair-straightening product that advertised itself as “formaldehyde-free” actually contained 6.8 percent to 11.8 percent formaldehyde.
Another example: Fourteen women, including two from North Texas and one from Houston, are suing Unilever, the maker of a product they claim caused permanent damage to their hair.
"It transforms frizzy, unmanageable hair into hair that's sleeker and easier to style," said the commercial for the Suave Professionals Keratin Infusion 30-Day Smoothing Kit, which is no longer being sold
When she began looking online for more information about the product, she said she found some people who said it worked, but more who said it damaged their hair.
She discovered a Facebook page devoted to angry consumers, and there are multiple postings on YouTube. I've been warning people about relaxers since 2009 and people are giving me thumbs down!
BTW: A variety of hair-straightening products used in professional salons can expose both hairdressers and their customers to formaldehyde. The results show that three professional hair-smoothing treatments labeled "formaldehyde free" can produce the cancer-causing chemical at concentrations above the occupational exposure limits set by the Occupational Safety and Health Administration. They tested four products: Coppola Keratin Complex Blonde Formula, Global Keratin Juvexin Optimized Functional Keratin, La Brasiliana Escluso Keratin Treatment with Collagen, and Brazilian Blowout Acai Professional Smoothing Solution. While ChemRisk tested four popular brands of hair straighteners, THERE ARE HUNDREDS on the market. Nov. 11-11

By contrast, beauty salon owners and stylists generally lack a scientific background and don't have a keen awareness of the danger of working with products that contain formaldehyde, experts say.

Watch: Good Hair a documentary by Chris Rock 2009 on BET or HBO. According to Tyra Banks, 80% of the black population are part of the billion dollar hair industry. Clips on youtube videos, also.

Chemicals can enter the body through the skin.

Sources:
Google FDA.gov & search for Hair Dye & Relaxers.
Google: Hair Dye FAQ's Are Hair Dyes Safe?

[Yasmine]

Well, if you really need it done and your parents won't let you, try to use a product, like (idk) John Freida 3-day straight so instead of straightening it every day you would only straighten it once every three days. Also to actually answer your question, you could write them a list of pros and cons to permanently straighten your hair, but make sure the pros outweigh the cons. If they still say no, I'm not sure what you could do but you could try argan oil, which will make your hair smooth and shiny and probably not frizzy. Sorry if this doesn't answer your question properly -yasmine

[becca]

either save up and get it done behind theif backs but whenthey find ot the wont trust you to go out without supervision or tell them just how unhappy you are and you think you might be getting dpressed but it mght be that the people that are going to straighten your hair arent allowed cuz they might lose their buisness so see what happens good luck x]