I am in love with a guy I met online?

[Gráinne Ó Riain]

Please read this whole thing, I'm going to try and make it short but every detail is important.

I met this guy 100% ACCIDENTLY online. He actually asked a question about grad school on here almost a year ago, I answered and said he could email me with any other questions. We emailed for a couple days, then got each other's skype. We talked on skype messaging for 9 hours, and he was absolutely wonderful. Soon after, we started calling eachother on voice chat. Then we began to video chat. We can video chat for 7 hours at a time, and we do like every other day. We try to call eachother atleast once a day, and we're texting non stop. I feel so close to him, we have so much in common. First off, I know he's legit. I've seen him face to face more times than I can count, have his personal facebook/twitter, have seen pictures with family/friends, etc. He is so nice to me, he doesn't go an hour without telling me I'm beautiful. We're exclusive, neither of us have dated anyone else. It's not like we couldn't, though. Like I know when people think online relationships, they think losers who can't get anyone else. Both of us (not trying to sound cocky) get asked out pretty often, and we both say no. I literally just got asked out last night by some great guy, but I have him. Thing is, he lives 3000 miles away. We both think of this situation realistically. We know what we need to do to achieve being together, and we're taking it slow and waiting until the right time to tell our parents. Once our parents find out, we'll have them meet us and eachother. We'll go from there. I've never been in love. I've dated plenty of guys, I dated one guy for nearly 2 years before. Never have I ever felt this way, ever. I'd do anything for him. I have no idea how to approach this though. My friends will make so much fun of me, same with my mom and siblings. What do I do? Has anyone dealt with this before?

This isn't just teenage hormones, I think this is the real deal. Although I know that doesn't happen often at our ages (We're 16), I think it is. So please give me answers that aren't saying how it's just lust. I've never felt this way, I didn't know I possibly could. He makes me want to be a better person, he's changed my outlook on life. My grades are better, I stopped smoking, and I actually have aspirations.
Also, both of us are pretty mature. I know all teenagers say this, but we both had to grow up fast. We both grew up in abusive alcoholic families, and had to grow fast to protect our younger siblings. That's something we've definitely bonded over, and due to that neither of us wastes time on silly immature things. We also both had trust and relationship issues due to this, but we've broken them with eachother and created the most incredible bond.
I'm not an idiot...I didn't mean for this to happen. I was actually really against it for the first few months...

I've never done something like this before. I just need help with it.
Sakurabi- Say it. What is the terribly rude thing that you want to say because I did something so terrible wrong?
I webcam with him every day.

[sakurabi456]

No I haven't and really don't want to online rather face to face

I don't know, your talking to him now aren't you. Maybe in the summer you can go visit him?

Idk what to do

Also, both of us are pretty mature. I know all teenagers say this, but we both had to grow up fast. We both grew up in abusive alcoholic families, and had to grow fast to protect our younger siblings. That's something we've definitely bonded over, and due to that neither of us wastes time on silly immature things. We also both had trust and relationship issues due to this, but we've broken them with eachother and created the most incredible bond.

- Pls stop right there just stop you are about to make me say something really rude


I gave you an answer up the top don't like it don't whine about it.
I actually trying to be by not saying you calling me rude just because I didn't want to hurt you feeling is just plain rude.
So take that shit somewhere else.
I think you misread my answer and jumped to conclusion that I was trying to be rude.

[Amber M]

All I can say..
Before you meet him
WEBCAM WITH HIM HAVE A FULL CONVO OVER WEBCAM
TALK ON THE PHONE

[Got Answers?]

Well I've had friends with the same situation as you, and it doesn't work out. Eventually things like this do not end up well. Keep in mind you're only 16! You're young, don't put yourself in this type of position. But I'm pretty sure you won't listen to that so if you do decide to have a relationship with this guy know that its going to be rough and exhausting. Nonetheless good luck,

[?]

I have and am going through this, now I am older then you so please I am going to keep this in mind ok.......

I met my fianee on line 4 years ago, my family and friends were so worried about the relationship at the start but now everyone is fine with it because we had to fight for it and omg we did,

I really don't want to sound rude but I'm just saying every relationship is different,

If you really like this guy go for it but it worries me that you want such a serious relationship at your age, the distance is hard trust me omg I have been there,it is all to do with trust,

If you are to meet this guy please do not go alone bring someone with you, even if you do trust him 100% never trust anyone 100% only yourself, your a big girl I think you know this.....

Never take notice of what people say (except your parents ) they will give you a hard time I know this but you need to start off by saying I met a friend on line, they will see you both are friends for a while then talk to your mom like say things like " I think this guy likes me and I like him" NEVER say I will do anything for him, thats your parents wall gone up straight away,

try be friends with him though for a while a good while before you meet him, respect your body while you are on line im sorry just had to say that it is what I would say to my daughter,

He sounds like he is making you happy which is good, take chances you only live once but just be careful sweetie ok, everyone learns from there mistakes don't get too attached love can hurt also, I wish you the best and just remember take things slow if it is meant to be it will be