I think my mum and dad verbally abuse me?

[YoungWild&Free]

Ok so i basically started thinking this after i started secondary school (age 12). I admit i have changed since i started my secondary school, ive become a lot more social with friends than with family but that is only because i think they understand me better. It started off with my dad, i have a younger brother aged 7 who my dad adores and thinks is absolutely perfect, he never punishes him or shouts at him and when something is actually my brothers fault i am the one who gets the blame. My dad often is very stressed out about work and sometimes he is just moody for no reason but he takes it out on me. I come home from school feeling good but he always ruins it by calling me a loser, a b*tch or worthless. My mum was never like how my dad treated me but somethings changed since the summer, she now agrees with everything he says and she says the same insults to me (b*tch,worthless, a loser) and today she threw the box of pills from the bathroom at me and told me to kill myself, when i refused she snatched the box from my hands (her nails really badly scratching me as she did so) and told me i was sh*t and she would make my life hell. At this point i was crying because my hand was really hurting from where she scratched me (it was now bleeding) but she told me she didnt care and she told me to f*ck off and go to my room. She has acted like this quite a few times now and my brother of 7 is still treated like a king whilst im treated like rubbish which i dont understand because i am not a person who intends to hurt anyone, and i do not recall trying to hurt them ever. I have now started self harming because it seems like the only way to release my pain but to be honest it just makes me feel worse, i feel so alone and like nobody understands me. My parents have also asked for my facebook and twitter passwords which i refuse to give to them, this made them call me a stupid little b*itch who thinks she knows everything but knows absolute sh*t. i need help i do not know what to do, im only 13 i honestly dont think i can live like this anymore, i will have to wait till im 18 to be able to move out and i cant wait that long. I want to kill myself and have thought about how many times but i still am not certain if i should, i dont know what to do because i cant talk to anyone.

[World In Peril]

If they use language like that then they are totally wrong regardless of what you did. No child should be insulted verbally like that. We all grow up and it takes time for us to grow eventually. Let it go through one ear and out the other and do not let it stay in your heart.

Speak to your parent (who is closest to you) and tell them that the bad language hurts your feelings and you will listen and try to improve if they stop with the abuse.

Good luck

[Rudy]

Sweetheart... this sounds awful. This is verbal AND physical abuse. If you have really started self-harming you need to do something about it. Now. You cannot wait until you are 18 if you feel like you want to "kill yourself". I know that this is an awfully hard step, however, you need to go to an adult you trust (a grandparent, teacher, pastor, councillor, a friend's parent) or even just a friend to simply talk about it. If you can, I would sit down first with a parent at a time and describe how it makes you feel and what they are doing to you; in abusive relationships usually a pattern is made that is difficult to break. I know that talking may seem useless but try it! If it does not work you need to speak to someone desperately. Your parents need to get anger management tips or councilling. You sound like you need it too. SO PLEASE... don't just sit there. Do something! It must be very hard for you. Good luck xxxx