Am i in an abusive relationship or am i the abuser ?

[Violentpartner714]

So I am in love with my friend. I tried to hide it to her for a year. During this year I used to do everything for her, when she wasn't at school I would always go out with her. I did everything she wanted, then she went back to studies and she starting talking to me less and less. I was really sad and I became a bit obsessed with her.
Then I told her I loved her and she became a bit distant so I told her we should stop talking to each other.

After 6 months we started to talk again and went out once. We continued to talk and she started making mean jokes and she knew they were mean so I told her to stop not because I was mad but because it wasn't funny. She said that she could make mean jokes to her female friends and they would find them funny. She then stopped texting me and unfollowed me from twitter.
So I asked her if she was mad and that if she didn't want to talk to me I understood. She didn't answer and 3 days later she said she wasn't mad.

Today I saw her when I took the train, she saw me I waved and she turned her head. So I asked her via email if it was her she said yes.

I felt better when she wasn't around but it seems like I am the only person who thinks she's an abuser (there were gossips about it tho and I think they might be true).
The thing is that she told me she wasn't mad but acts as if she was.

[GB]

I don't know much about abusive relationships but to me you both just seem a but odd.

[Naguru]

Without proper verification, observation or investigation, I am really sorry, I cannot make any correct guess. Of course, I get some vague ideas, which may not be true or correct. Hence I don't want to reveal. I only want to give correct answers. Let me consider it leisurely and also consult my mentor, if necessary.