A Guy Who Is Trying to Date Me Talks to Other Girls Online Behind My Back. What Do I Do? Can I Trust Him?

[Jae]

3 weeks ago I got a random facebook message from a guy I met in college. (We shared a class last semester and he showed alot of interest in me: stealing glances, staring, telling other people that I "seemed interesting and he wanted to get to know me but I'm so quiet.”) Anyway, we exchanged numbers over fb and have been texting on and off ever since.

I randomly saw him over the summer at an event and he complimented my jacket, and asked what brand it was. YESTERDAY I saw him at another event (I told him I'd be there on business and he said he was going too, but he literally only stayed like 10 minutes because it was a boring place. My sister literally asked me if he had just come to see me, and looking back, that seems to be the case.)

Anyway, he complimented me again yesterday said: I like your necklace, Mickey mouse?
Me: Thanks, it's from kingdom hearts.
Him: (awkward pause) actually I like your whole outfit today.
Me: (awkward and shy, looking down at the ground) thanks
Before he left he said if I was ever in town again I should let him know.

When we texted yesterday he asked if he'd get to see me soon. I asked him when does he goes back to school (he's on winter break from college right now) and told him I would try to see him before then, but he never responded back. Stalked his twitter later that day and saw that he was making plans to chat with a girl after work 10:00pm. He texted me early this morning apologizing about how he was SO tired after work, and went to bed right away, and asked how I was. I haven't responded to his text. I don't know what to do about this. I don't really trust him. How can I? This may seem like a small thing to some people but he still lied to me. -_- Do I ignore these interactions with others girls or what?

[Brandon]

Well first you have some evidence he lied. Second you two are not dating so he can kinda do whatever he wants. Right now you are probably one of many women. One of you or one that comes later will be the one that snatches him off his feet and out of the game. The messed up part is that he lied to you. That should be a pretty clear sign to you that he is not ready for a real relationship, and before you get head over heals, you outta stay away for awhile. I can tell you that the one who normally WINS is the one who is the hardest to get. When he text you, tell him you dont want to hang with people who will lie about something so dumb. Don't explain to him what you are mad about, just let him know you are mad, he will figure it out on his own. Then you are the one he has to "win over". The longer you can last, without pushing him away, the better shot you have.

[Bibibib]

Give him another chance :/ if he lies to you again, be sure to leave that mudaparkerr and date another guy, make him jelly of ur belly :3

[Blue Planet]

Actually i dont think he lied 2 u. he was probably tired after work, but y should he tell u he was talking 2 some1 else, all that means is he knows some1 else right? You talk 2 guys & dont tell him right? He is absolutely interested in u it sound like the 2 of u r just having trouble talking n person, he tries 2 start conversations by complamenting u the heart thing u said? i dont even know what your talking about so im sure he did pause, when he complaments u say anything...oh i got his from gpa 4 christmas, these 3 word exchanges r making both of u feel akward, ask him questions ask his goals n life, where he wants 2 b n 5 years get 2 know him or walk away

[Jess]

Obviously, he doesn't think your that important and is most likely looking for some sex or something along those lines, drop him!